“Are women better parents than men?” is a loaded, complex question
I feel that as long as both parents are singing from the same hymn sheet each is capable of achieving as much as the other. I know this isn’t always the way it is, and have several friends going through hard times because they do and say one thing and hubby undermines them by saying and doing the opposite. I personally feel that parental cohesion is the most important thing for the family unit. We can wax lyrical about a mother’s love being the main sustenance a child needs but the reality is very different to the romantic idea.
Team work is everything when raising kids
I come from a single parent background. My mother had me at 18, then two more kids with a different man to my father by the time she was 25. She made lots of mistakes throughout our childhood, which we paid for dearly. For example allowing her friend’s teenage son to live with us because he was fighting with his mother. Lets just say he abused his position within our household, and at nine years old I was no longer very innocent. We moved house over a dozen times because she would amass debts and run away from them. You can imagine what going to eight different schools does to a child’s education and self-confidence. My mother naively thought that the strength of her love would be enough to ensure that we grew up happy but she failed us on so many levels.
My hubby and I muddle through in a sleep-deprived haze most days. Sometimes it feels like we are so distant from each other even if we’re sitting in the same room. In my darkest hours I have contemplated what will happen if we don’t make it through these early years. If the strain of it all takes its toll on our marriage to the point of no return. Even in that instance though, I can put my hand on my heart and say I know he would do just as good a job as I could.
Children need so much more than a mother’s love. They need guidance and support. They need to be nurtured and protected from harm. They need boundaries and to be taught right from wrong. Ultimately either parent is capable of giving it to them, and in an ideal world two heads are surely better than one? Why divide the sides? As far as I’m concerned as long as we are all doing our very best, we are all as good as each other.