The Truth About… Having Three Kids

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I know I’m new at this triple parenting malarkey, but I thought I’d share some insights about having three kids nine months in…

– most people will be shocked that you are expecting a third baby, especially as your second is only 15 months old. The only friends that are truly happy to hear your news are the ones with three or more kids themselves.

– you cannot split yourself in three, fact. It feels like one of your kids is always missing out. Usually the 2yo, and you can already see how middle child syndrome starts.

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three cheeky monkeys

– baby has to get used to being fed on the go, which means you get into very habits and he is constantly attached to the boob for the first six months of his life.

– baby boy gets boobies all night long, because the second he stirs you whip him out of his cot and put him straight on to keep him quiet and not wake the other two up.

– the previous two points mean that you are completely exhausted come 8pm and fall asleep on the couch most nights halfway through watching 24/Sons of Anarchy/The Good Wife.

– your third baby is basically left to just get on with things, but ends up crawling quicker than his two sisters and is mobile from just 8 months old. Which is  typical as it would have been nice to have a late developer this time around!

– people assume you’ll have a fourth, because lets face it one more isn’t going to hurt.

– unless it’s the immaculate conception, there’s no chance of that happening! Breastfeeding a hungry boy all day and all night, and having him sleep in a cot right beside your bed is a wee bit of a sex-life-stopper.

BUT you really wouldn’t have it any other way! Bring on the family of five fun I say πŸ™‚


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39 Replies to “The Truth About… Having Three Kids”

  1. tee hee, how could I forget that hey?! xx

  2. You forgot the bit about writing a book at the same time xx

  3. Same here! Eldest shouts very loud and baby’s demands are more immediate… poor middle children!!

  4. Was nodding along to all of this, especially the bit about letting the third just get on with things! They seem to do all right! It’s the middle one I worry about too, as the other two just shout louder. Poor poppet. Good luck with your party of five!

  5. tee hee, lots of people stopping at two these days πŸ™‚

  6. Wow #7, that is amazing. I definitely wouldn’t be that brave but secretly (or not so) thought I wanted four… but think three is it for us. I bet you’ll have a third, people that say they are contemplating it always do! Totally see why you would wait until after the surgery though hon xx

  7. Must be so lovely now to have four siblings hon, I think if I were younger I’d up for another one, but can’t see it happening now xx

  8. I think three is going to be the magic number for us too lovely πŸ™‚

  9. I thought the exact same thing when I read your post yesterday Suzanne! I have to say I worry about my middle girl already and she’s not even three yet. But I also try and shower her in love and affection at every possible opportunity which I hope will balance things out. So much easier for the baby to just be fed the whole time and kept happy isn’t it xx

  10. How funny that we should both right a post on the same subject this week – just 10 years apart! Goodness, how this post takes me back… little one never got a look in as he was also permanently attached to my boob! Interestingly, he was the one I fed for the longest – it was all just so much easier! My middle one definitely came off worst and I feel we are just coming out the other side of that now. Good luck πŸ˜‰ x x

  11. Ha! I could have written this, all so true πŸ™‚ I might have worried about my third being left to get on with things and being a bit neglected, then she turned into our little extrovert who runs rings around the lot of us… no worries there! Three is definitely the magic number for me though, absolutely no chance of number four!

  12. Fab post, its hard enough with two so I can see how 3 must be a bit chaotic! But lovely and fun all the same. Love that shot of the 3 of them πŸ™‚ I loved growing up in a family of 5 (I am the middle child) even though I once packed my little bro a backpack and told him to run away…. πŸ˜‰

  13. Love this post – very honest. Have to say I tend to feed Sophie during the night as it’s the easiest way to settle her without disturbing anyone else and suspect I would do exactly the same with a third. I’m getting to the broody stage again now – definitely don’t feel that I’m ‘done’ yet but will probably try and hold off until Jessica has her next surgery before we start thinking about number 3 (assuming I can persuade hubby!) I can see the argument for ‘well you have 3, why not 4’ – that probably applies to my family – my brother and sister-in-law are currently expecting no. 7 but I don’t think I’ll go that far! πŸ™‚

  14. As a parent of one who plans on stopping at 2 (granted the universe grants me one of each gender that is!), I’ve never understood the people who are shocked about people choosing to have three or four little ones. Children are a blessing! As long as the babies are wanted and loved, who has any right to judge how many kids a family should have?

    Great post! Thank you for sharing!

  15. Thank you Jenna, what a lovely thing to say. Enjoy every last drop of your baby xxx

  16. Your family is gorgeous. I would love three children one day but I expect me and hubby will compromise at two.

    With a 7 month old keeping me busy, a sibling seems a long way off yet.

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

  17. Oooooh exciting hon! In my experience people who aren’t 100% definitely stopping at two always have a third. Can’t wait to see if you do xxx

  18. Hahaha yes crazy talk indeed xxx

  19. This is my boy too, he’s only 9m but has such a look of mischief in his eye already xx

  20. Totally relate to this!! Number 3 is my naughtiest child, and I’m convinced it’s because she’s #3!!! But saying that she’s the most daring so that will take her far in life (at least I keep telling myself that like a mantra lol).
    It’s a fun journey! xx

  21. That’s weird half my previous comment was cut off! Just saying I have to admit to still being a bit shocked – it’s just so far out of my own comfort zone and what’s come to represent ‘normal’ iny world! Thanks so much for linking up to The Truth about with this great post hon xxx

  22. Why would anyone assume you were having four? That’s crazy talk!!

  23. I am currently considering three! I don’t know why it just feels a nice number to me. The hub isn’t so keen. We shall have to wait and see! xxx

  24. …but nothing prepares you for the early days does it! I’m going to miss them but I’m mostly glad they’re over πŸ™‚

  25. So honest and true, well said. I have 3 children and people were surprised I had a third. The jump from having 2 kids to 3 kids is massive. My advice is be prepared.

  26. Us too Maddy. In fact I was categorically told by a clairvoyant years ago that I would have three kids, I argued at the time that I would definitely be having two or four! He also told me I would be filthy rich so here’s hoping he was right xxx

  27. I think not getting as much attention makes the second and subsequent kids more well-rounded, but it also means the mummy guilt can be strong as a result. Good luck with convincing your hubby πŸ™‚

  28. My first got all the attention, and then when she was 9 months old I fell pregnant with my 2nd. With having the two of them at home they got my attention shared, then number 3 came along and the older two were both in school for half a day, so he got my attention 100%. I am so ready for number 4 but the hubby isn’t too keen! πŸ™

    I totally agree though, Harry (#3) was fed on the way to and from school, he has to settle in with their extra curricular activities so he has just slotted in!

  29. maddy@writingbubble says:

    I love being a mum of three but can really see why (they say) birth order has a big impact on personality! I treat my third so differently because I’m so laid back and also busy with the other two! Mind you he is doted on by both his big brothers and has both his parents wrapped round his little finger. The routines and activities you did with no. 1 just go out of the window by the time you get to three don’t they? But no more kids for me. Three is the magic number!

  30. Same here Tim! Our first had so much of everything from attention to daily activities and now has much higher expectations than her almost 3yo sister! It’ll be interesting seeing what baby boy turns out like πŸ™‚

  31. I always said I wanted four, and would never have kids in odd numbers, but I’m pretty certain there won’t be a fourth!

  32. Very true. I would say the biggest difference between our first and third kids (Kara is now nearly two-and-a-half) is that with our first kid everything we did – activities, timing, logistics – revolved around them, whereas with our third they end up having to fit in with everyone else’s routine rather than having it all their way. It’s hard in them, but it also makes them more independent and resilient, I think.

  33. Great post and very honest. I am still steeling myself for number 2, which isn’t about about to happen just yet. I’m defo done after 2… only for financial reasons. I reckon if I won the lottery I might have 4! HA! But then I could get a nanny and a night nurse πŸ™‚

  34. You’re so sweet hon, thank you! I have my 5yo’s allergy induced sleep problems to thank because three years later I’m used to the deprivation and cope on much less… I’m sure it will all catch up with me one day!!

  35. Haha, don’t these people know that curiosity killed the cat πŸ˜‰ I got some out and out rudeness from a few people when they saw my belly third time round, made me sad…

  36. My girls fight like cat and dog right now, but I hold out hope that they’ll be close one day πŸ™‚

  37. Your family looks so lovely… I imagine there are lots of good things about having brothers and sisters around you all the time.

  38. What a lovely, refreshing post, hun! That is a very cute picture of your monkeys. You make great points, especially people’s shock when you announce your third pregnancy and their expecting the fourth after that. Now when people see me, they ask me when I’m planning the 5th one, ha ha!

  39. Bless you! I cannot imagine having 3 kids…and you get up at the crack of dawn to write this and your other blog and your book…that is why you fall asleep at 8pm!! If I were you I would be falling asleep the minute the kids were in bed…well, ok…that is about 8pm! πŸ˜‰

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