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On Authenticity: How to be Authentic in a Shallow World

It’s a bit of an oxymoron writing the words ‘how to be authentic’ when my personal feeling is authenticity can’t be taught. If you naturally veer towards materialism and shallowness, then you’ll have to brace yourself before reading. And most definitely be prepared to do some work on yourself afterwards. This blog contains lots of links to other blogs I have written, which you might find useful.  It’s easy to write the phrase ‘how to be authentic’ but what does being authentic mean? The dictionary defines the word authentic as not false or copied; genuine; real. An authentic person isn’t …

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Why I (Sometimes) Hate Autism

It was a massive honour to be asked to guest blog for the amazing AutismAwareness.com. They do wonderful work in not only raising awareness of autism, but supporting parents through their journeys. They reach millions of people every month who discuss, learn and explore topics of interest to special needs families. Here’s a snippet of my piece  “Usually I’m as good at masking my sadness as Polly is at masking her high-functioning autism. Lately though, I’m being asked a lot if I’m okay. Just to be explicit, I am not okay.” You can head over to their site for the full …

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How to Love Your Challenging Child 

Notice the title of this article isn’t: “how to love your autistic child,” or “how to love your SEN child?” That’s because a challenging child can happen to anyone. Additional needs or not. Cards on the table: I’m going to come right out and say that parenting my own challenging child is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It pushes me to my very limits, whilst simultaneously making me feel like an absolute failure. I have never felt so torn in my life. Every tiny decision I make has to be carefully considered. All options weighed up, to ensure it doesn’t …

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Surviving: A Story of Mental Health #MHAW17

When I found myself pregnant with Polly in 2008, the state of my mental health had never been better. At the ripe old age of 29 I’d already been on a remarkable journey. Extraordinary even I had survived a dysfunctional childhood, and self-destructive young adulthood. I’d dragged myself through two mental breakdowns, and experienced the highest highs and lowest lows. I had travelled the world, and met my awesome husband along the way. I’d made the most wonderful friends a person could wish for. Which is just as well, because at 25 I estranged myself from every single member of …

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How to Help a Child with High Functioning Autism 

Regular readers will know that my eldest daughter Polly was diagnosed with high functioning autism in June 2015. You can read more about our diagnosis here if you like. To say that we’ve been on a steep learning curve ever since would be the understatement of the century. As it’s world autism awareness day, I thought I’d share some of the things that have helped us, as a family, come to terms with the wonderful world of autism. Hope you find this article useful. Love, acceptance and early intervention It should go without saying that unconditional love is at the …