latent phase of labour

The Trouble with Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is a tricky one for me It reminds me of the obvious lack of mother in my own life. It’s now been so long since I saw her face, I can’t even properly remember what it looks like. It poses a mixed bag of emotions every time a so-called special day presents itself. Mother’s Day. Birthdays. Anniversaries. The last time I saw her. The last time we communicated. I estranged myself from my mother several years before I started having children. I coped with a full on mental breakdown, and hit rock bottom with no family support whatsoever. …

survivor of abuse

When You Are the Survivor of Abuse #metoo

Sometimes the term survivor of abuse makes me cringe Other times it chokes me up, leaving me wanting to bawl my eyes out, or rock myself in the corner. I dislike it so much because it implies victim status, but I’ve come to see that this label is inescapable. It is what it is, because no matter how hard we try to make our tomorrows brighter, we can not erase yesterday. Us survivors carry the scars of the past around, like invisible (or visible) wounds of the battlefield. These scars are etched into our souls, and haunt us while we …