In my capacity as a DryNites® Ambassador, I’ve been looking into some of the common myths surrounding bedwetting. Like it or not, it is a taboo subject among parents, but it really shouldn’t be. I am absolutely convinced that if we spoke about it more openly, these myths would cease to exist and stop causing us issues.
Some might say that I have too much of a simplistic attitude towards it, but I was the mama tearing her hair out in the middle of the night while my kid wet the bed for three years. Nowadays it only happens once in a blue moon, but this isn’t down to a magic pill or night time toilet training. Which brings me nicely onto…
Myth #1: You cannot train a child to not wet the bed
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s not like potty training a toddler. Bedwetting is a common occurrence in children up to the age of fifteen. Even once they are mostly dry at night, kids can wet the bed at any time. It has nothing to do with your parenting abilities, and is rarely a serious condition. It’s absolutely imperative to not beat yourself up over it, because in most cases there is nothing that can be done about it.
Bedwetting isn’t a behavioural problem, or your kids doing it on purpose to annoy you (no matter how it might feel in those awful twilight hours).
Going back to why this is such a taboo topic, my thoughts are that as parents we’re always looking for ways to fix our children’s problems. We can feel like we’re failing them for not ‘curing’ their bedwetting, but there is no cure. We simply have to wait for them to grow out of the phase with lots of love and kindness along the way.
Myth #2: You should not limit your child’s fluid intake
This was the most shocking discovery for me, as I was led to believe that stopping drinks and diuretic foods at least two hours before bedtime would help. At the time I bought into this, but I can now see that it sometimes added extra stress to an already stressful situation. P would get upset that I wasn’t allowing her to have more than a tiny sip of water, and it would often be the catalyst for a meltdown.
Limiting drinks can cause dehydration, which is the main reason the experts advise against doing so. Also, which is something I hadn’t considered, it means that the child is never feeling their bladder getting full. This can essentially prolong bedwetting, so it’s best to get your kids to drink enough throughout the day so they aren’t as thirsty in the evening.
Myth #3: You should not lift your child onto the toilet in the middle of the night
Many of my friends, particularly ones with older kids, swore by the lifting method. I’ll be honest, we tried it a few times but until very recently P was a super light sleeper and it was an absolute disaster for us. She would wake up in the process and get really cross that we’d put her on the toilet. It then took us absolutely ages to get her calm enough to go back to sleep.
According to the experts, lifting reinforces to the child that they can urinate while they’re sleeping. This in turn can make bedwetting even worse, because their brain is never waking them up due to having a full bladder.
DryNites® pyjama pants are a tool to help parents through what can be a very stressful time
DryNites® come in three sizes 3-5, 4-7 and 8-15, and have five layers for maximum absorption. They won’t cure your child’s bedwetting, but they will almost definitely alleviate some of the middle of the night stress.
For more information head over to the DryNites® website.
**Disclaimer: this is a collaborative piece, for my full disclosure policy click on the coloured text.**