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How to Love Your Challenging Child 

Notice the title of this article isn’t: “how to love your autistic child,” or “how to love your SEN child?” That’s because a challenging child can happen to anyone. Additional needs or not. Cards on the table: I’m going to come right out and say that parenting my own challenging child is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It pushes me to my very limits, whilst simultaneously making me feel like an absolute failure. I have never felt so torn in my life. Every tiny decision I make has to be carefully considered. All options weighed up, to ensure it doesn’t …

Sorry About the Noise

Sorry About the Noise

We live in a lovely house on a private estate, and I’m proud to be part of a proper little community. Just like in the olden days, we let our kids play out and at times it can feel as though the only socialising we do is with the people on our doorstep. This is not a bad thing by any stretch of the imagination. We are exceptionally fortunate that many of our neighbours have kids the same age as ours, and lots of us are on the same page when it comes to our outlook on life. There are of course exceptions to …

One Thing After Another

One Thing After Another

I pride myself on my togetherness. My normalness. Some people consider the N Word to be as dirty as the C Word, no not Christmas. I don’t though. With my background, being as normal as I am now is a wonderful thing. Lately though, I don’t feel very together. I can’t seem to shake my sadness. It comes and goes, and comes back again. Sadness at the state of the world. Sadness at what human beings are capable of doing to each other. Sadness at the big picture. Sadness at the small picture. It feels like we take two steps forward …

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Changing my Attitude

How changing my attitude was vital for turning family life around December last year was a dark time for me. My little family were on a constant loop of illness, both the baby and the 5yo’s sleep were in dire straights, and our girl’s behaviour was at an all time low. After a disastrous Xmas Eve Hubby and I read the fantastic book 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child. We spent the entire Xmas holiday doing everything in our power to eradicate our own negative parenting behaviours, which were without a doubt having a massive effect on the kids. After a week of being super …