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No Matter How Dark Our Days Get We Must Never Lose Hope 

“I hate you, and wish you weren’t part of our family.” Screamed 3yo Freddy, in another one of his rages. It was fuelled by me insisting that he went to the toilet when he got up this morning. I know, what a terrible mama right? Anyone who has lived with a threenager will know how tricky they are. Super sweet, caring and loving one minute. The next all hell has broken loose for suggesting something that should only be worthy of a nod.  I do hope it’s just a phase, I find myself thinking multiple times every day. I can’t spend …

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How to Help a Child with High Functioning Autism 

Regular readers will know that my eldest daughter Polly was diagnosed with high functioning autism in June 2015. You can read more about our diagnosis here if you like. To say that we’ve been on a steep learning curve ever since would be the understatement of the century. As it’s world autism awareness day, I thought I’d share some of the things that have helped us, as a family, come to terms with the wonderful world of autism. Hope you find this article useful. Love, acceptance and early intervention It should go without saying that unconditional love is at the …

"We're All on the Spectrum" and Other Dumbass Things People Say 

“We’re All on the Spectrum” and Other Dumbass Things People Say 

It’s a fact that people say dumbass things when they’re flustered and aren’t sure what else to say, but sometimes it’s best to say nothing. As much as you might want to contribute to the conversation, staying schtum is the way forward. Unfortunately not everyone adheres to this simple life rule. We are not, I repeat NOT all on the spectrum! The most annoying platitude people regularly say to me is that “we’re all on the spectrum”, closely followed by “maybe she’ll grow out of it.” Last time I checked, I wasn’t hoping that my daughter was going to change …

A Letter to My Family at this Super Difficult Time

A Letter to My Family at this Super Difficult Time

Dear Andy, Polly, Clara & Freddy, My family, it should go without saying that I love you all to the moon and back, but there’s no denying that we’re experiencing a really difficult phase.  I’ve ummed and ahhed over whether or not to press publish, and have decided that this needs to be said. Out loud. On the record. So here goes. For Andy There’s no way to dress it up, these last few months have been exceptionally tough. Your new job has taken up a lot of your time and attention. Ditto going back to off-site training. We’re either …

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An Open Letter to Theresa May: Our Children’s Mental Health is Suffering for the Sake of Your School Statistics #CMHW17

Dear Prime Minister, I hope this note finds you well. I’m writing to you today as a mother of three. As it’s children’s mental health week, it feels like an appropriate time to do so. Allow me to introduce myself   I’m Reneé Davis. I’m the survivor of a dysfunctional childhood and was failed by the education system in the nineties (I left at 15 with no qualifications). I was also bullied throughout school, so know first hand how much damage it does to one’s mental health. I suffered two breakdowns, and numerous bouts of depression as a young adult. Through sheer determination I have broken the …