I came across this interesting blog post recently about positive parenting, and it got me thinking about my own behaviour around my children. Above all else, I would like my cherubs to have a happy view of their childhood when they are all grown up and have flown the nest. Kids learn by example and pick up positive and negative personality traits from the people in their lives that have the most influence on them. As ours don’t spend enough time with other people to pick up habits, this reponsibility falls directly to hubby and me.
We all have strengths and weaknesses so I’ve decided to do a little personality analysis. It’s important to give ourselves the credit we deserve, so firstly I’ve listed what I consider to be my most positive attributes. Traits that help me get through life with a smile on my face. Along with the good stuff I’ve also listed some of my weakest areas, things that I know I need to improve upon. Ultimately I guess I would like to see the good refelcted in my offspring, and the bad not! I hope you’ll join me in this little exercise 😉
The good bits…
– I’m caring and compassionate and would do anything for my nearest & dearest. I’m also a tactile person, unafraid of giving hugs or saying I love you.
– It takes a lot to shock or offend me. I have thick skin and learnt a long time ago not to worry too much about what others think of me. I find this even more important now I’m a mum. It’s a tough enough job and to go through it thinking everyone was judging my every move would be exhausting.
– I don’t heap too much pressure onto my shoulders.
– when someone asks for my advice or opinion I’m completely honest, and will never just say something because it’s what the other person wants to hear.
– when I trust my gut instincts they rarely let me down.
– I’m very organised. Having worked in admin jobs since I was 18 you’d hope so too!
– I love cooking and teaching my little ones about food. My 4yo already knows her kale from her spinach, eats 85% dark chocolate and regularly helps me out in the kitchen. I hope that having a good understanding of food from a young age will mean that eating well becomes second nature to them.
– I am able to say NO! Might sound silly but it hasn’t always been the case. I used to over commit something rotten to the detriment of everyone involved.
– I am pragmatic when things aren’t going so well. I used to be exceptionally impatient and want everything yesterday, but have learnt that all good things come to those who wait.
– I feel that I have achieved the coveted ‘perfect work/life balance’. This enables me to spend lots of time with the kids, as well as work part time in a job I enjoy. Each of these factors are very important to me, and subsequently I don’t feel any stress towards my working/non-working situation.
The not so good bits…
– I’m useless when it comes to the crafty stuff. Seriously laughable. The art work my 21mo comes home with from nursery is far better than what I can knock up!
– I can be guilty of finishing hubby’s sentences, and not in an endearing way. Poor guy will start talking and I jump in halfway through. I know how much it irritates him, and it should have become a thing of the past by now.
– I’m not the best at asking for help, and will struggle on like the little red hen. I really am my own worst enemy on this one.
– I can think the worst of people I don’t know well. I will question their motives rather than just believe they are doing something nice out of the kindness of their heart. Life has made me a tad cynical, I guess.
– I have terrible skin (my main symptom of PCOS) which I have moaned about in front of the girls. 4yo already talks about ‘mummys spots’ which isn’t cool, in the same way that saying you are fat in front of your 4yo isn’t.
– I swear… a lot… Obviously not in front of my girls or other people’s kids, but I’d rather not at all. The expletives just flow too easily from my mouth, and truth be told I enjoy saying the f word far more than I should at my age!
So there you are – some good, some bad, nothing downright ugly I hope! What are your best and worse bits? I’d love to hear one of each in the comments section below…