As I stated when I posted my first piece for this blog, I’m not the kind of mum who strives to achieve perfection. Anyone that is, in my humble opinion, is going to make themselves very miserable in the process. The way I see it, motherhood and perfectionism do not belong on the same page let alone in the same sentence.
From what I can gather from social media and blog reading, lots of mummy’s are obsessed with the idea of becoming yummy, which seems to be making them feel like crap. If you’re wrapped up in negativity about yourself it will filter down onto your babies, which surely is the opposite of the desired effect? I say buck the trend, love yourself inside and out and it will project from your every fibre making you the yummiest mummy of them all – without having to conform.
So what if you’re a dress size bigger since being pregnant, it is not the end of the world. Who cares if your house happens to be smaller than the rest of your NCT group? Seriously, look at the bigger picture. Work out what is important and focus your energy on making the world your family grows up in a happy one.
The best mums I know are the ones who are confident in their own abilities. They don’t waste their time on helicopter parenting, and trying to keep up with the Joneses. They aren’t interested in comparing your children with theirs. They learned long ago that the house did not need to look immaculate 24/7. That their kids would be much happier if they weren’t doing every activity under the sun. They don’t have overly stressful jobs to contend with at the same time as child rearing. Above all else, they have realised the lifestyle they used to have largely isn’t relevant or appropriate right now.
We all want luxuries in our lives, but in the early days of bringing up kids I personally think it’s better to make sacrifices and separate the needs from the wants. Once you’ve done this, I’m pretty sure you’ll be happier for it.