Unsugar Coated Motherhood

If Only I Had More Time

baby #3 gets fed on the go a lot!
baby #3 gets fed on the go a lot!

Before I had children I was told over and again of the phenomenon known as ‘time flying too fast‘. I didn’t truly get it though until I became a mum, and I used to complain bitterly at how quick it was all going. So much so, that when hubby and I had our annual things-to-do-next-year writing session on New Years Eve 2010 he made me write ‘stop complaining time is going too fast!’

People often ask me how on earth I find the time (& energy!) to do all the things I do (see here for a particularly busy morning). First and foremost, going to bed at 9pm certainly helps counteract the night time wake ups and early starts. I would be a mess if I stayed up late in the evenings. As for the rest, I thought I’d pick the three areas I get quizzed on the most.

Breastfeeding

My issues with dairy have been well documented on this blog, so for me formula isn’t really an option. My son is a very hungry boy, and although it’s slowing down now, he would have happily fed all day given half the chance in the first three months. I quickly worked out how to feed him in the sling while on the move (see photo). This gave me back my two hands, as well as the time to do other things.

Cooking from scratch

Although preparing my family’s food from scratch adds extra pressure, it has to be done so is factored into my day. Organisation is definitely my key to success. Bulk buying, farmers markets, online grocery shopping and a veg box delivery make my life so much easier, and save me time. I also get the girls involved in the kitchen, which turns mundane chores into activities. Even baby boy sits in his chair and watches me cook.

Not having a car

Growing up mainly inside London, and spending all but the last five years living within walking distance of the tube, I never felt the need for a car. I figured it would just end up being a very expensive occasionally used toy. Nowadays we’re so used to taking public transport that it’s second nature for us. 4yo gets horrendously car sick anyway, so it’s probably just as well we don’t drive!

So you see I don’t really get wistful about the lack of time, I find ways to best utilise the resources I have to get what I need done. I also have a sensible attitude: I can’t do everything, so don’t even bother attempting to, and I never compare myself to others. We all have our strengths, and focusing on mine makes my time feel more valuable.

I’ve also decided to make my word of the week: Time, because being half term it has disappeared even faster this week.

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56 Comments

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  3. Oh hon would you believe it if I told you I was considering Life Coaching as a new career? Maybe you could be my first client? xx

  4. Well I think you’re amazing for getting done all that you do! And with a new baby! I can’t seem to get a single thing dome sometimes. I even try to train myself to be organised but I’m simply not lol and it really gets me down at times! Think I need a life coach :-/ xx

  5. Thanks so much lovely. Time is limited and precious, which is why we need to enjoy our time as much as we can. And you lady are never lacking in the fun and enjoyment stakes 😉 xx

  6. Not sure about all sorted but as long as I’m organised I don’t feel bogged down, and as long as I’m in a good frame of mind all is well 🙂

  7. Thanks so much lovely x

  8. What a kind thing to say… although you would probably change your mind if you saw the state of my house and unshowered self right now 😉

  9. Thanks lovely, it really does go in the blink of an eye when you’re raising children… we’ll be grandmothers before we know it!

  10. Thanks so much Izzie !

  11. Ahhh thank you my lovely! I’m usually up for the day at 5am, and up in the night too so any later than a 9:30 bedtime and I am done for!!!

  12. Thanks so much Joy! Glad to have motivated you 🙂 Also pleased that you did away with the ironing – too much time and energy for too little results (in my opinion of course). The only thing that gets ironed here are hubby’s work shirts!

  13. So true, even when I realise I’m busy I always under estimate just how busy I am… thanks for stopping by 🙂

  14. I think if it all gets a bit over whelming then step back, write it all down and see what you’d miss least if you didn’t do it. I bet you’d be surprised at the results xx

  15. Yay a fellow non-driving couple! We are a rare breed my lovely xx

  16. Thanks so much for dropping by and the lovely comment. Good luck 🙂 xx

  17. So true Denise! If only we could though 😉

  18. Thank you so much! It’s so frustrating for a usually-organised person to feel they are bogged down and chasing their tail. Hope you get to cross some stuff off your to-do list soon xx

  19. I’m sure you’ll get there hon, small steps at a time 🙂

  20. Thanks hon! Slings rock, and for me early to bed is the only way I cope! 🙂

  21. Thanks Sam for such a lovely comment. I think we all need dreams, but keeping mine realistic and achievable makes me happy. I get a bit down when half of my to-do list contains things that won’t get done for months on end 😉

  22. Ahhh thank you honey for such a lovely comment! I don’t think aspiring to be better than your former self is a bad thing at all, but you can do so without having to look at others. As long as you know in your heart of hearts that you are better, that should be enough 🙂 *easier said than done though

  23. tee hee, I’m sure you do better than you think you do 😉 thanks for stopping by!

  24. Thanks Sian. I agree, it’s a pointless task and just causes unnecessary heartache xx

  25. Thanks so much for stopping by Helen! It’s an interesting concept that time becomes irrelevant with small children. I think ultimately all they want is our time/attention, and it’s surprising how easily pleased they often are when they have it.

  26. Sounds like we have a lot in common lovely 🙂 Looking forward to reading more about your adventures xx

  27. Haha not quite supermum but thank you 🙂 I think we all do our best, which is all we can do xx

  28. I think it’s really important Lou, especially in the ‘Facebook world’ we live in these days…

  29. My services could be hire-able for the right price my lovely 🙂

  30. Wow!!! So organised. Anytime you wish to come to mine and help organise me, you would be soooooo welcome….. lol 🙂 #pocolo

  31. I’m a bit of an organisational freak so I completely agree that you can get everything done if you just plan ahead.I love that last paragraph about accepting you can’t do it all and not comparing yourself to others. #ThePrompt #WotW

  32. Supermum! All of these things are brilliant. So organised too. I just about scrape by ignoring the things I don’t do and hoping none of it is too critical haha. X

  33. I’m totally with you on the three areas you picked – though I only have to deal with one little person at the moment and I can’t quite compute how I’d manage with three… I’m still breastfeeding Arthur at 17 months, and most of his daytime feeds happen in the sling. He’s very enthusiastic about mama’s milk and I have no idea how I’d keep up with him otherwise! We’re also big into cooking from scratch – I have a nut allergy which cuts out most processed food, but to be honest I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂 And we are also big public transport fans – I never even learnt to drive whilst I lived in London, and though it’s definitely on my to do list now we’re in Devon I actually really enjoy not just being able to jump in a car – it makes getting from A to B all part of the adventure! X

  34. I really admire how you’ve decided and stuck with your priorities regardless of how much time they might take. I think time becomes irrelevant with small children and I have fond memories of taking the train or bus with my children and having the time to sit quietly and watch the world go by or listen to them properly as they chattered away.

  35. This is all very wise and true. I think comparing ourself to others, especially as mums, can be so dangerous. For one its pointless, but it makes us belittle ourselves.

    Lovely post #theprompt xxx

  36. If organisation is key then I’m going to be locked out for a long time, I must try and be a bit more organised, I like your shopping tips. #ThePrompt

  37. I love your positiveness and good attitude. I wish I had more of it towards not comparing myself to others, but I think mine is the competitiveness and the strive to be better than my formal self. I could use a few pages from your book to chill out and know I can’t do it all cause man do I try and it all gets overwhelming at times. Lovely lovely post. if only we had more time indeed! #prompt

  38. I think the key here is acceptance of the place you’re in right now – and making it the best it can possibly be. it doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t have dreams though, but maybe you prefer to block them out for the time being – probably wise actually, dreams and wistfulness can lead to that flat feeling and then comparison too which we all know is best avoided at all costs. All that to say you do an amazing job with the tools available – the idea of breastfeeding whilst your baby is in a sling and you are walking around – well, frankly I’m just slightly in awe of anyone who can do that! I wasn’t very good at it even sat down on a sofa, in private! 🙂 #theprompt #wotw

  39. wrymummy says:

    Great post! I wouldn’t have coped without the sling giving me my hands back with baby 2 and even more so, 3. Impressed with your 9pm bedtime, I need to do that! You’re absolutely right about not comparing yourself – that way madness lies! #PoCoLo

  40. Organization and time management is something that I need to learn. I am always struggling with my time and I need to up my game if I want to succeed =) #wotw

  41. lifeatthelittlewood says:

    I could learn a thing or two from you, definitely! I always seem to be chasing my tail, which does provide a bit of stress at times, particularly when I’m naturally a very meticulous and organised person. I love your positive, upbeat outlook on it all though – we do put too much pressure on ourselves to do it all, don’t we?! X #wotw

  42. Your post is very similar to mine in regards to how we view time. We can’t magic up more time so we have to manage our time more effectively. Love the positive attitude that your post inspires 🙂 #ThePrompt

  43. Wow you are incredibly organised! Utilising my time better is definitely something that I need to work on x

  44. You are so organised!
    I totally get Not having a car…..Neither my fella or I drive and we’re used to public transport!

  45. Very sensible attitude, I think I’ve been tying myself in knots recently trying to do too much and then feeling I’ve failed, rather than looking at the things I actually have done. There aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything all the time! Great post, thanks so much for linking to #ThePrompt x

  46. I don’t necessarily find time going fast in the moment. It’s when I look back at all the things I have packed in, sometimes I even surprise myself! You have a good outlook!

  47. I think you hit the nail on the head – it’s about what is important to you. We used to spend ages ironing everything for the kids to screw their clothes up in the wardrobes before they were worn – then we decided to stop ironing and spend that time actually with the children instead. I need to be more organised with the food cooking from scratch – thanks for the motivation.

  48. Le Coin de Mel says:

    You are doing such a great job at using your time wisely. I have no idea how you can go to bed at 9 p.m., but again, I am not a morning person! Mel #ThePrompt #PoCoLo

  49. Wow you sound so organised for a mum of 3 little ones! Time most definitely goes too fast when the kids are small, so happy to hear you’re so positive.

  50. Loving this positive and organised attitude. We only have so much time, so I do what I can to make the most of it, as it does go too fast…! Thanks for sharing with #WotW

  51. You’re like superwoman! I’ll be coming for advice when Baby C arrives!xx

  52. I love your attitude, I think it is one that we should all learn to adopt!! #PoCoLo

  53. Very true about time. It sounds like you’ve got it all sorted though, I agree organisation is key.
    #WoTW

  54. You sound so organised and positive! Well done 🙂 I think I need to take a few leaves out of your book and stop worrying about time so much (although that is not so easy when I remember my age sometimes!!). Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 x

  55. Very true Sarah – three kids is a whole new ball game 🙂

  56. Good for you! I think we all make it work. Life is a bit easier for me now my kids are at school, but I remember how challenging it was trying to fit everything in, but we do it! It’s not always easy and people who aren’t in the situation of having three kids don’t understand how we manage.

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