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How Happy Are You With Your Body?

How Happy Are You With Your Body?While we were away in Greece last week I ate as healthily as I could, but with so many delicious ingredients being cooked with a light smattering of flour coating them, I was up against it. I usually don’t eat grains at all, and was bloated.

My eldest (ever the diplomat) added insult to injury when she turned to me towards the end of the trip and told me that my belly was so fat it looked liked I had a baby growing inside it. Ouch! I have a fairly thick skin, but that hurt.

Over the years I have struggled with the way my body looks more than I care to admit. I grew up in a family that ranged from being a little bit over weight to morbidly obese. I believe it my gastro problems and the stomach surgery I had at five years old (see the huge scar on my belly?) was the only thing that stopped me from following suit.

A six year junk food eating frenzy after first leaving home meant that I was well and truly on my way to being overweight at 21.

Eating well = healthy weight

Fortunately I caught it before it spiralled out of control, took stock of my situation and made necessary changes for the future. I went from mainly eating processed food to teaching myself how to cook from scratch, and became handy in the kitchen. I lost a ton of weight in the process, and loved my new shape and the fact that I could fit into size eight clothes.

I didn’t have the perfect figure, but for the first time in my adult life, I was happy with it. My weight fluctuated a bit during the years I was travelling and living abroad, but it plummeted towards the end of Cambodia. Which is unsurprising given that I was existing on iced coffee, vodka and electrolyte drinks.

how happy are you with your body?By the time I left I was under seven stone and could fit into children’s clothing. I still wasn’t quite a size zero though, so what does that say? Within a few months of being home and eating properly again, I got back to a healthy weight. It was this year that I had my mental breakdown, hit rock bottom and went through my journey to liking myself. Two years later I fell pregnant with my eldest.

Changing shape for good

For such a small person (just under 5’2″) I get huge in pregnancy, and put on between two and three stone each time. Most of the weight has come off within a month after the birth, but my body has changed shape, probably forever.

Do you know what though? I’m comfortable with that. Sure I could do more exercise and tone up a bit, when I finally get the time amongst everything else. Hand on heart, yes I would like to shift the pesky last half stone, which has attached itself firmly to my thighs, but it’s not a priority for me. Also, with my levels of sleep deprivation I am up against it to lose weight anyway.

I can honestly say that I stopped lusting after my 26 inch Diesel skinny jeans shortly after my eldest was born. Along with my 32DD’s, because after breastfeeding three kids for a year or so each time, trust me those puppies are long gone. I’m proud of this body though, that has grown and given birth to three healthy babies. I’m going to be kind to it, even if it does get a bit bloated after eating too much wheat.

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I try really hard not to compare myself with other people, but sitting on the beach in Greece it was difficult. You know what I discovered? Not a single adult woman (mother or otherwise) had a ‘perfect’ body. They came in many shapes and sizes, and as long as the owner was smiling, they were all beautiful. How happy are you with your body?

I’m putting myself out there big time by asking my readers to join me in loving their bodies. Please pin a photo of yourself on my Pinterest board Lets Love Ourselves Ladies.Β I’d also be thrilled to hear from you in the comments section, with ideas on how to love the bodies we have for others in need of inspiration…

Whose with me?

Edit: Since publishing this, I have joined forces with the fabulous Vicki at Honest Mum and her #proudinmybikini campaign. Do check out her post for more details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  1. They really do πŸ™‚

  2. Carol Cameleon says:

    And it’s so true that if someone’s got a smile on their face, they ooze that beauty and confidence πŸ™‚ #sharethejoy

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  4. I love it Renee, it seems great minds think alike as this was totally what was behind the mums’ days fit club – boosting confidence, looking after ourselves and loving what we’ve got, post-baby changes and all! Fabulous post, I loved every word πŸ™‚ Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

  5. Such a fabulous post darling. It is so important that we learn to love our bodies, even when we feel they are at their most unlovable. Yes sometimes it’s a hard thing to do but it’s about acceptance and kindness. Often we are our own worst critics too. As you say we come in all shapes and sizes. And thank goodness for that! πŸ™‚ x

  6. I’m far from happy with my body – I have lumpy bits and I definitely had better boobs, but you are so tight. This body grew the most amazing little human. Ok so I might eat too many biccies and I could definitely exercise more but hey, I am me. Zach sometimes squidges my tummy because he can and I think it’s cute! I’ll never be the skinny teenager I was but I was far less confident then!! #TheList

  7. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with my changing body shape but I am finally almost there. That’s not to say I am not going to make an effort to do so exercise and make the best of myself, but if it doesn’t happen I am ok with that. It’s wonderful to spread a positive message about loving your body x

  8. Love this, I’#m far from happy but you’re right, wear a bikini with a smile and that’s what counts. As long as you’re healthy that’s the most important thing!

  9. This is a lovely post and you look fab in your bikini. You’re right there is not one perfect body shape out there. I am currently working to bring my weight down to a healthier range and get a healthier relationship with food and this is very inspiring. Thank you. #thelist

  10. Much better than before, thanks. Not sure it’ll ever be perfect but at least I can work with it now.

  11. I have hardly any stretch marks on my stomach, but tons on the tops of my legs so bikini or swimsuit they’re on display… I used to hate the scar on my stomach as a kid, but grew to love it as the years went on. I’m sure you’ll feel less self concious as time goes on lovely xx

  12. It’s truly liberating my lovely, really hope you find a way to be happier with your body. I think being so small is tricky because the teensiest bit of extra weight can look like much more than if we had a bit of extra height xx

  13. Spaniel ear boobs, that is hilarious! Glad to hear that you’re happy with your body, hope your back is all better now…

  14. It’s great to hear that you aren’t torturing yourself over it. Best of luck for finding your way to a healthier place. I have over 200 super healthy recipes between here and my other blog that you might enjoy πŸ™‚

  15. They’re pretty incredible aren’t they – especially throughout pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding!

  16. Wow hon, that’s a really inspiring story! It’s not about what the scales say but how we feel, and if we feel unhappy and unhealthy then we must make changes to turn it around. I’m so pleased that you’re in a better place now, and you look awesome from what I’ve seen on YouTube and photos on the blog. So interesting about your resting heart rate too xx

  17. Oh you are so sweet Denise, what a lovely thing to say! Me and grains really don’t get on at all anymore, I went to Waggamama’s for the first time in about two years yesterday and ate udon noodles, woke up today feeling like I had a hangover! Not great…

    Go you for the T25, I’ll definitely look into that. Strong is so the new skinny, and I know what you mean about feeling good at having strength – my daily mummy workouts have given my arms fab definition! I’m hoping my new running adventure will tone up the legs a bit. We shall see πŸ™‚

  18. Ahhh that’s great to hear lovely, hope to see you over on Pinterest! There’s a lyric in a James song that I love ‘if I hadn’t seen such riches I could live with being poor’ – that’s me and my DD’s πŸ˜‰

  19. Tee hee, too right!!

  20. Oh hon what a brutally honest comment, which I can really relate to. Especially about the comments ‘don’t be fat like me’ was a mantra through my childhood too, and the lasting impact can be so detrimental to good body image. I also think that being so small can make it tricky, because everyone else views us as tiny but we can hone in a bit too much on the little imperfections. Plus a teeny amount of extra weight makes us look a lot bigger than it would on someone taller and heavier. You’re right though, we’re only getting older and certainly for me it’s time to truly love what I’ve got and continue eating cleanly so that I maintain a happy balance… oh and I’ve also just started running, so that’s got to help πŸ™‚ xx

  21. I’m sure you’ll get there lovely, that last half stone is so tricky!

  22. Sorry to hear that you went through such dark times when you were younger Zaz, but I’m pleased to hear how much happier you are with your body now. I truly think that acceptance only comes with experience, which often also means age. I also think that it can depend how you grew up, having something drummed in while we were kids can mean it’s much harder to shed the negativity as an adult. Which brings us right round to your last point, and you are completely right. Teaching our kids to love themselves through showing them that we love ourselves is definitely a huge (if not the biggest) win as a parent. So glad you enjoyed the post, and I hope to see that photo of you in your bikini on the Pinterest board xxx

  23. Oh Renee, you are so bloody brilliant! I agree wholeheartedly, we need more self acceptance and far far less self-judgement. I spent many many years fixated on the scales and the supposed self-validity of the numbers on there. I made myself sick for years, went through dark dark times, and finally came to a place where I found me, the real me. I don’t care at all about numbers on the scale, I never talk about size or weight, in front of the children, or even to myself. In the mirror I’ve stopped looking for the flaws, and look for the positives. Why then am I slightly nervous about posting a picture of myself in a bikini? I guess I’m nervous about other people getting me wrong. I hope to bring up the courage to join in, because I honestly think that us women accepting ourselves and each other is one of the biggest wins we can make for our children as well as for ourselves. xxx
    (thanks so much for linking to All About You x)

  24. Good for you! I had my 2nd just over a year ago and whilst I have lost weight I am struggling to accept that my stomach is never going to be what it was pre-babies. That peskyast 1/2 stone is hard isn’t it! I think you look great so well done for getting to that good headspace. #allaboutyou

  25. Such a fantastic post and for the record I think you look great – kids can be so cruel!!
    I too come from a family of women with weight issues but always stayed slim myself – my mum would mention if I put any weight on (she didn’t want me to be ‘fat like her’), I do believe she meant well but it’s an attitude I don’t carry forward in my own parenting.
    Pregnancy doesn’t really suit me. I pile on the weight and a whole lot of water, gaining as much as 4st in each of my three pregnancies (I do have fairly big babies I should point out!!).
    After my first child was stillborn at 41 wks I lost the weight very quickly but hated what had become of my 21 year old body. I felt ruined in every way possible – the final insult when I didn’t even have my beautiful little boy. A year later his father left me.
    I don’t think my body image has ever really recovered.
    I met my husband and we have had two little girls. After each pregnancy the weight has come off fairly easily, I wear size 8/10, I run half marathons, I have done the Insanity workout, I do pilates and I’m sensible in what I eat (my local Starbucks does know my hot chocolate order by heart though so I’m no saint!) but I remain lumpy and bumpy (c-section tummy, split muscles and I have no idea what my thighs think they’re doing!). I know – after three children what can I possibly expect!!
    I need to lighten up about it, I need to enjoy the body I have now because lets face it…we’re only getting older!
    I know, I know and I’m trying!
    Great post and it’s certainly giving me a lot to think about today.
    Xx
    #Allaboutyou

  26. You’re so right! Its impossible to get the same size and shape back you had ante-natal. Even if you can lose the weight, you might end up with stretch marks, excess skin, saggy boobs and the rest. We should all just accept this and have a biscuit πŸ˜‰

  27. Thanks so much Michelle, really pleased you enjoyed the post. It’s so great that you’re able to embrace your post-mum body and be proud of what it’s achieved. I hear your Noom sessions are really motivating xx

  28. Woop! LOVE this post from you Renee and wholeheartedly agree that we need to create new, realistic and positive role models for women and for our children. Although I’m an ambassador for Noom and I run weekly to stay in shape I try not to talk about calories or weight issues in front of my two and when I look at myself in the mirror with my Mummy lumps and bumps I’m proud that this body carried two babies! Thank you for linking this empowering post up at #sharethejoy

  29. Ha your weight journey sounds very similar to my own. I’m now very nearly back to my pre-baby weight but my body shape has altered forever! Although, like you I’m content with that because my girls are more than worth it!! And I never had DDs in the first place! Thanks so much for linking up to #SundayStars.

    Please do add the badge or link back at the end of the post. Thank you x

  30. So very true my lovely, so very true!

  31. Thanks so much for dropping by. Best of luck with getting back to netball πŸ™‚

  32. How very honest of you to write about your weight struggles. I think you look fab. I have found it harder to lose the baby weight the second time round, but I haven’t really had the time to exercise this time round either. (I can’t diet as I love food!) Hopefully, I can return to playing netball soon.

  33. Way to go you! I think you look fabulous. We need to realize that models are not reality and the magazine are only one sided and we don’t all have chefs and trainers to help obtain that on a daily basis with children to run around and feed and look after. We should love ourselves and be comfortable. Great post. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

  34. Thanks so much Aby, what a kind thing to say. Really hope you start feeling better about your own body hon. hugs xx

  35. Buy some new ones my lovely, and feel.great in them πŸ˜‰

  36. That l you lovely. I remember that human bouncing ball look so very well πŸ˜‰

  37. That’s a brilliant attitude Michelle, thanks for dropping by πŸ™‚

  38. Thank you Ting – but honestly I feel it’s very worth while saying this and putting my post kids self out there. Currently contemplating a scars and stretch mark post, with close up pics. Eeekkk xx

  39. Sounds like you’ve been making such a concerted effort to make the changes you need to become healthier hon. It will never happen overnight, but I guarantee that this time next year you’ll be fully reaping the rewards. Very best of luck xx

  40. Very wise words! You’re so right, as long as we are comfortable in our own skin, actual size is irrelevant. So pleased you’re happier with your body now xx

  41. There is a line in the song ‘Affirmation’ by Savage Garden which goes ‘I believe that beauty magazines promote low self-esteem’. I take that with me everywhere now and as as look as I feel comfortable in my skin (which I have to admit that I didn’t until I lost weight this year) then all is well with the world! I will pin my photo in a bit. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

  42. What a lovely comment to read Sarah, thanks so much! Really pleased you’re making progress with your relationship with your body…

  43. Growing babies really is an amazing thing! I’ll check out your post asap πŸ™‚

  44. I know! I’m horrified that I could fit into 11 year old girls clothes but still not be a size zero. Shocking isn’t it. Go you for your fitness drive hon, hope it’s going well. Amazing that it’s coming from love and not hate xx

  45. I really hope you find your way to a better place soon Kiran. Sending hugs xx

  46. This post gave me the warm&fuzzies, I love to see women accepting and loving their bodies. My own relationship with my body is a jumbled one, but one I work on daily. I don’t know if I’ll ever be confident enough to wear a bikini, let alone pose for a photo in one, but it’s inspiring to see others doing so.

    #PoCoLo

  47. Thanks so much for your lovely words and sharing the post Louise! I honestly think that being (and feeling) healthy is the most important thing – regardless of what the scales say xx

  48. Really is an amazing thing isn’t it Maddy, the circle of life blows me away. I think I could have ten kids and it still would. Thanks as always for your lovely words xx

  49. I think that health and fitness can become quite tricky as we get older, but that’s a great way of approaching it Kim πŸ™‚

  50. I think body confidence is an issue that afflicts so many of us and it sounds like you’ve had quite a journey! Keeping my fingers crossed that you find the balance once Leigh graduates lovely xx

  51. Thanks so much Emma, hope you’re well lovely. Glad to hear that your bikini was on while you were on your hols xx

  52. Thanks so much Tor, I’d love to see you there. My hubby and I were talking about this just yesterday, and how our 30’s are our make or break decade when it comes to creating good health and fitness habits. I’m 36 next month eeeekkkkk and now my youngest is almost 16 months, it’s definitely time to up my fitness xxx

  53. Three cheers for that

  54. You look fantastic Renee! I am feeling older at the moment. I’m approaching 40 in the next few years and struggling to keep as toned as I used to. I’ve been thinking about getting a few sessions with a personal trainer to educate myself on staying healthy and strong in my mid years. I want to be a fit and healthy as I can. It’s just so hard to be a mum, work, run a house and find the time for it though. I know I should love my body more as it’s healthy already but we always find faults with ourselves don’t we! Such a good idea for the lets love ourselves board, will try to join in. xxx

  55. What a lovely inspiring post. I would like to be a bit thinner and a bit more toned but once I was on holiday, I really didn’t care. The bikini was on. x

  56. Ahhhh thank you for such an awesome comment! I love that you know you look hot and your hubby appreciates you, fantastic to hear this πŸ™‚ Sod the BMI those charts are ridiculous as far as I’m concerned, most rugby players are obese by their standards because they’re short and stocky, does that make them unhealthy? Errr nope!

  57. I really hope you get yourself to a better place soon Livi, must be so frustrating when the meds interfere with your weight. Sending hugs your way…

  58. I am totally with you on that train of thought Kirsten. Being healthy and feeling healthy will equal looking good anyway… be that a size 8 or 18…

  59. It’s certainly a struggle I’m familiar with. I think ultimately, as long we are eating well and living a balanced life, it should mean we end up being happy with what we see in the mirror xx

  60. I think the thing for me is that I was never happy with my body to begin with so now that my body has changed since having kids I struggle even more so. It’s hard not to compare yourselves to others. I think realistically we all look fab in our own right it’s just hard to see ourselves how other see us, you are right noone has the perfect body, just their own uniquely wonderful body. Brilliant post xx

  61. It is such a shame that we feel such pressure to look a certain way. What is important is that we are healthy. I so agree with you about being on the beach and seeing people as beautiful in all their shapes and sizes if they are wearing a smile. In the search for slimness it is easy to forget that we can be slim and unhealthy. I feel as a mother I have a responsibility to stay healthy and I also like to like myself. I deserve that.

  62. Well kudos to you for this post! I wish I was with you, sadly I’m still on the body hating wagon thanks to being hugely overweight and taking medication for my mental health that makes gaining weight even easier than it was for me already.
    I know if I learn to love myself for how I am I will probably find myself losing a bit of weight and feeling generally better all round, but it’s so hard.

  63. Great post! πŸ™‚ I don’t own any scales, and probably wouldn’t have a clue what weight I am if it wasn’t for hospital check-ups, etc. Which I found out when I first became pregnant that I am a BMI of 30, so that makes me obese! Came as a shock to me, as I consider myself fairly healthy, eat well and cook everything from scratch, do some form of exercise everyday.
    So overall, I take little notice of what is the ‘ideal’ and as long as I feel healthy I’m happy. My body is an amazing thing, it beat cancer and so I intend on looking after it and being proud of it.

    I like the picture idea, especially as I always consider myself pretty hot for my age when I’m just in my underwear and so does my husband πŸ˜€ The older you get, the less you give a sh** what the rest of society thinks. I’ve got wobbly bits, I’ve got scars, they make me who I am! πŸ˜‰

  64. Ah you look fab! Loving your and Vicki’s body confidence posts – it’s just what I needed to read at the moment… I’ve never had a great relationship with my body – well, not since puberty struck anyway! I struggled with anorexia as a teen, then spent the next ten years or so in a very self-destructive cycle. By the time I got married I had just about managed to make peace with my body – and then not long after that I fell pregnant! Whilst I’m very proud of what my body has achieved I can’t pretend I’m happy with the extra weight I’m still carrying… I eat healthily but the combination of sleep deprivation and no time for proper exercise just isn’t helping. Ho hum… I’m hoping once my hubby finishes his final exams in a couple of weeks I can start finding a better balance. I might even get into a bikini before the summer’s out! Xx

  65. kim neville says:

    As I have got older my metabolism is slowing down as I used to eat what I like and now appear to have put on a few pounds. Normally 3 months before holiday I start exercising more and don’t eat as much chocolate (my weakness) and that tones me up so I feel better in my bikini. The good thing when you go abroad is you don’t really know anyone and you see all shapes and sizes so can relax and be content with body πŸ™‚

  66. Fantastic post and you look great! You’re totally right to be proud of your body – it’s an amazing thing to grow three little humans! I feel quite happy with my body these days although the idea of anyone apart from my husband seeing my thighs makes me cringe. I remember having all sorts of hang ups as a teen – stupid things like my legs weren’t shapely enough and my skin wasn’t smooth enough! Now I’m much more comfortable in my own skin, thrilled to bits with my lack of stretch marks and proud of what my body has achieved in creating three babies. It’s so good to see the backlash against those stupid ‘beach body ready’ adverts. The more normal, ‘real’ bodies we see, the better we all feel! Good on you ReneΓ©. xx

  67. That’s the beauty of being a woman hon, these bodies perform little (& big) miracles πŸ™‚

  68. Well done Beth for making necessary changes to lose the weight. I have lots of healthy recipes on here and my other blog (http://mummytriesgaps.WordPress.com) that you might like.

  69. Thyroid issues are awful, I suspect mine is under active as was my mother’s. I follow the GAPS Diet which is great for thyroid disease. You might be interested in my other blog http://mummytriesgaps.WordPress.com

  70. I’m sure you’ll get there hon. Really hope your new diet and exercise regime is working for you xx

  71. Great attitude Merlinda, change always has to start with us wanting to change. Very best of luck. Did you ever get round to reading my book?

  72. Thanks so much for your kind words Maria. I’m so pleased you have such a healthy perspective on body image. I totally agree that it should be all about how we feel, and not what the scales say. I hardly ever weigh myself either, because the numbers change all the time and it becomes a bit of a fools errand. Bridget Jones has a lot to answer for!!

  73. Thanks so much Sam. I’m pleased to hear that your changed shape post-kids doesn’t bother you. I’ve met so many women over the years who hate their bodies, and chase after a dream that will never be realised. Much better to get comfortable with what we’ve got, and make small healthy changes along the way if we’re unhappy xx

  74. Thanks lovely! I honestly don’t think many of us are blessed with great weight genes, if a thing even exists… Much better to work with what we’ve got πŸ™‚

  75. BRILLIANT POST πŸ™‚
    …I’ll be thinking of something and sharing!

    I know ALL about fluctuating weight!!

  76. I was one of those lucky cows who had a very high metabolism as a teenager and young woman and never had to think about what I did or didn’t eat. I never did any regular exercise until I was about 30 when I started running and then in my mid thirties I went to a gym about three times a week, but since having kids and getting that little bit older I am currently sporting a delightful muffin-top (and yes, I can pinch more than an inch!). Sometimes it bothers me but nowhere near how much it would have when I was younger. I know what you mean about looking at others on the beach too although in my case its at the leisure centre – women of all different shapes and sizes and they’re just getting on with it – why should they worry? Why should we worry? I’d just like to be more active and for my clothes to fit comfortably but I don’t have the time to exercise regularly right now unfortunately. Well done for being so fearless and creating the Pinterest board though. Xx

  77. I’m totally with you on this. I’ve fluctuated with my weight since I was in my teens and even more so before and after my daughter is born. It’s so great to see this push to embrace our bodies no matter what size or figure. There’s beauty and strength in all of us, and that’s what matters most, after all.

    I used to be obsessed with the scale and would weigh myself constantly. I was so fixated on the “right” number for me that I acquired some unhealthy eating habits in the process. But with a bit of will power, I was able to conquer it (like you, I learned to cook at home, stay away from junk, etc…). Now, years later, I have yet to own a scale. I don’t weigh myself and have even asked my physician to refrain from stating my weight (unless its of concern). I’ve never felt more liberated.

    Now, my basis for losing weight is how my clothes fit and how I see myself in the mirror. If I feel as though my favorite jeans are getting a bit snug, then I know that it’s time to buckle down on the workouts and eating habits. And the opposite goes when they’re feeling a bit loose.

    It’s all a matter of perspective. So long as you are comfortable with yourself and you’re healthy, it shouldn’t matter the size or the weight.

    Thanks for another lovely and encouraging post, Renee! It’s always such a pleasure to read your words.

  78. I am now happy with my body especially at the moment. I have started my quest to get back the old me but its so hard. But I will try as I need to be healthy for me son. #sharewithme

  79. Such a lovely post hon and amazing how brave you are and how proud you are of your body. I’m afraid I struggle to see past the stretch marks and wobbles and like what I see in the mirror. I am getting happier with my body in clothes with the weight I’ve lost, but not really without them on! Xx

  80. I totally get this. I started having weight issues in college and then after both of my pregnancies. It turned out to be thyroid related. But it still took a toll on my psyche. I find that I struggle finding positives about my body even now.

  81. This is a great post. I could never of been as brave as you. I despise my body. But I am now doing something about it. Shockingly I gained over 7 stone when I was pregnant with my first child. Disgusting. I lost about 2-3 stone after then gained 2 stone in my 2nd pregnancy and another stone after pregnancy! I have lost a stone and a half since.
    Well done, really like this post.

  82. What a fab post – thank you for helping encourage us all to love our bodies. Mine is a long way from being perfect but then I remember that it has grown and nurtured two beautiful babies and that makes all those tiger-striped stretch marks and flabby bits worth it! πŸ™‚

  83. This is a great post Renee, and I think it’s brilliant that you have shared the picture of you in your bikini and have come to be happy with your body. You look great. Very inspirational. I am really bad at comparing myself to others and I am trying to get better at it, as well as feeling better about myself generally. As long as we are healthy that’s all that matters really xx #sharewithme

  84. This is such an inspirational post and I love your idea. Thank you for writing this. I wish I had your perspective, I find it hard to be proud of my body or accept it and this is something I struggle with every day. This kind of post though is something to aspire to. Thank you lovely x

  85. Very inspiring post Renee. I do think it’s shocking how thin size zero people must be – and your comment that you still weren’t a size zero even being able to dress in children’s clothes highlights how unhealthy that goal is. I am on a fitness mission at the moment, but it’s from a position of love, not hate. Great post lovely. xx #sharewithme

  86. I wrote a post a while back called “The fat suit vs the giver of life” which is basically my battle with my body. I don’t love it at all but I do think it has done an amazing job growing, carrying and and feeding 4 babies and for that I am proud #sharewithme

  87. The last two times we’ve been on holiday I have also realised that very few mothers have the “perfect” Sports Illustrated cover body. I actually wrote about that last month, after we got back from Center Parcs. I got back feeling unhappy with how I looked, as I was still one of the bigger women around the pool. My body has changed since having a baby (flatter boobs and less of a waist, definitely) but the fact I’m overweight is still my biggest obstacle. I can’t change the fact I’ve had a baby so I just accept the physical changes; it’s all part and parcel. But I can change my weight, which is probably why I get so annoyed with myself! x

    #sharewithme

  88. You are so brave and I admire you for putting yourself out there for all to see. May I just say you look bloody brilliant! We all have imperfections and bits that we don’t like. I’ve battled with my stomach since I was a teenager – always wanting that washboard look and to wear crop tops. But like you, as I’ve got older and had Monkey – I now know what looks good on me and I try to go to the gym and eat well 60% of the time! I’m not quite brave enough to pin a photo of me in a bikini but I’ll definitely try to work my way up to it! Great post xxx

  89. A fantastic post! Our bodies change after having babies, for the better! We have to work with what we’ve got, enjoy it, be proud, and if you’re not happy make small steps towards a realistic change. πŸ™‚ x

  90. You look amazing and I know how you feel about the height thing, I’m a tiny 5 foot and pregnancy makes me look a bit like a bouncing ball. Great post and a brilliant reminder to all women!

  91. You really are an inspiration. My body has changed since having a baby, I’m the same size but the clothes just don’t fit right. #sharewithme

  92. You are a star! You have been through a lot, yet you are so grounded and sensible. You look fantastic, I’m afraid I don’t love my body – I wish I did! xx

  93. Love it! I have also had weight ups and downs. Mostly a lack of understanding about healthy eating during the university years and a taste for beer. The stress of adjusting to having a baby coupled with surgery on my back at the beginning of the year has seen my weight at an all time low. Definitely altered after the pregnancy but I’m mostly OK with it. Bikinis yes, topless sunbathing with spaniel ear boobs no.

    #sharewithme

  94. What a journey you’ve been on, I love your sensible attitude towards it all. I think you look amazing. I am just starting to be able to move after our last baby so I cannot wait to be able to shift weight. I’m happy though as I am, and it doesn’t torture me, I’m just very unfit and need to lose weight for my health. Great post #sharewithme

  95. You have a very sensible attitude to your body and weigh issues in general.

    I’m aways amazed at what our bodies can do and how strong they are!

  96. I’m the same height as you too πŸ™‚ I’m far more comfortable with my body now, and I am much slimmer than I was in my twenties and thirties. But, I wouldn’t wear a bikini… Three huge bumps and c-sections later and showing off the stretched skin is a step too far for me, vanity is a terrible thing πŸ™

  97. I’m always very critical of mine because whatever I weigh, there’s something I’m not happy with. As you say, it’s time to embrace that and just enjoy ‘being’ rather than striving to be something else all the time. Well done you! x x PS We are the same height!

  98. You have a great outlook on your body. I know you eat for health, which is the most important thing, and ultimately breeds a more healthy body.

    I’m happy with my body at the moment. I wasn’t a year ago, largely (pun not intended) because I was indeed overweight, and despite the fact that I wouldn’t admit it, pretty unhappy with how it looked.

    My husband always reassured me it was fine and unchanged, but cutting a long story short, I started eating sensibly and quit huge portions. 15kg later, I am now slightly lighter than I was on my wedding day, fit into my old clothes and look well in proportion.

    More importantly, I’ve managed to significantly reduce my resting heart rate to 60bpm from 80bpm, just through weight loss. This, if there ever was a reason to lose weight, is the best thing that has resulted in shifting those kilograms (not to mention looking and feeling a LOT better about myself).

    You look fantastic xxx

  99. You have such a nice figure! Also you are really pretty and attractive, especially in personality, you have a sparkle about you.
    Grains are weird, I wouldn’t say I am intolerant, but I think bread makes me bloat too. I can feel it in my thighs and see it in my stomach.
    Funny thing is since I started doing the T25 DVD every day (25 minutes daily well spent!), I have actually put on a pound, but I am in size 26 for the first time ever and would say edging more towards 25 now. Have always been 27/28. It’s not the weight, but the toning. I was so surprised to discover that. Most of all, it makes me feel so amazing to be *stronger* and have actual muscles instead of just lazy flab. It’s not so much in how I look, but what I realise my body can *do*.
    Hope you are well!

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