how do you do it
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How Do You Do It?

**this post contains lots of hyperlinks to previous posts of mine. Please do check them out if you’re curious…Β 

Since announcing that I’ve completed the first draft of my book I have been inundated with questions along the lines of ‘how do you fit it all in?’ With three kids aged between 6 months and 5 years old, two blogs and being on GAPS my life is more manic now than it has ever been before. I guess I do have some secret weapons though. Here’s what they are…


Hubby and I are quite far along with our ‘real food journey’ and we eat exceptionally well. This has happened gradually though – in 2002 I went dairy free; in 2007 we both started moving away from refined sugars and processed carbs; then in 2012 we went one step further and eliminated all grains. Between this and the combined food sensitivity list of our family I’m forced to make almost all our food from scratch whether I like it or not (fortunately I love it). We buy quality ingredients too – organic farmers market veg, grass fed meat and local seasonal fruit. It doesn’t cost us the earth either.

I’m only human though and have had plenty of wobbles. When I was pregnant with my son I went off salad and craved Pret ham and cheese croissants. Not good for a person with a deep rooted dairy intolerance! I stayed away from refined sugars, but totally overdid the home made treats. I paid the price and was exhausted while I was carrying him. Totally incapable of anything over and above the bare minimum towards the end of pregnancy and in the first weeks of his life.

I honestly don’t think it’s a coincidence that since prepping for and being on the GAPS Diet I have noticed a huge increase in my energy levels and overall productivity. I started the diet when baby boy was 6 weeks old, and I’ve felt mostly amazing since. Even through severe sleep deprivation, and five broken hours per night becoming the norm. Even through exceptionally challenging behaviour from my 5yo. It’s a well documented fact that a good clean diet will boost brain power. Each day I take strong probiotics which aid gut health, and are also said to stimulate the mind.

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In addition to my diet I get plenty of exercise by walking everywhere (within reason) and carrying baby in the sling. Often pushing the toddler in her buggy at the same time, whilst sometimes dragging 5yo on her scooter as well. I’m hoping for buns of steel rather than jelly by the time this year is out! I’ve also recently started having colon hydrotherapy again, which I cannot advocate enough. A good old internal clearout is another way to boost the body and mind.


My other secret? I try to remain as positive as I can, and don’t sit around dwelling on what could have been. I concentrate on today and tomorrow rather than get upset about yesterday. It hasn’t always been this way, but I’ve worked hard to heal myself over the years and truly make peace with my past. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t walk around in a bubble of fake smiles, but I do look for the good in situations. It’s not always easy but I find it helps me get through the day.

I also use my limited time as productively as I possibly can which makes me feel good about myself. Ensuring that I do small things each day that I enjoy means I never feel as though I’m about to disappear somewhere between being a mummy and a wife.

So there you have it, the secrets of my success are: diet, exercise and PMA. What are yours?

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  1. […] Energy: I started GAPS when baby boy was 8 weeks old. I don’t think I’ve slept for longer than three hours since he was born, and at the mo he is often up every hour through the night. I can honestly say though that I have never had so much energy. […]

  2. […] here on numerous occasionsΒ with three kids and the GAPS Diet to contend with, my spare time is pretty thin on the ground. I’ve been working on my book all summer which has been my number one writing […]

  3. I’m so pleased to hear it’s had such a fab effect lovely. I’ve had a few things over the years that I’d say were life changers, and giving up refined sugar and processed carbs is right up there with learning how to think positively πŸ™‚

  4. Thank you so much lovely. Hope you’re having a fab weekend xx

  5. Thank you so much for a lovely comment Zaz. GAPS has been such a path of enlightenment for me, I know that sounds a little OTT but it really has. Cannot recommend reading the book highly enough xx

  6. Oh I loved this post (you’re not a writer are you? ; ) Kidding kidding!) – but honestly, something about your writing, whether it’s about food or goals, just always engages me. Very interested in the GAPs diet – I am not a fan of diets per se, but always intrigued about good eating advice. Thanks so much for linking to All About You (sorry I’m late in getting around!) – hope to see you again on Tuesday x

  7. Diet makes such a huge difference to the energy levels I’ve noticed. I always new it, but since I’ve given up a lot of sugar I feel able to do more. Not sure I could fit in writing a book, I’m still working on the exercise bit! #pocolo

  8. This is a great post to read on a Sunday night. Your positivity and energy radiate out and I am hoping to ride the wave as we head into another manic Monday. #PoCoLo

  9. Thanks so much lovely. It’s all about getting into good habits, and unfortunately summertime is the worst for temptation… as you say tomorrow is a new day xx

  10. Thanks so much Steph, pma is everything!

  11. Thanks Ting! Inner Engineering is sound stuff, gaining absolute peace and clarity of the mind will filter through to everything else we do… eating lots isn’t a problem, as long as it’s lots of good food πŸ˜‰

  12. Did you look into GAPS in the end lovely? As if your life isn’t busy enough πŸ˜‰

  13. I’m sure you can turn it all around if you put your mind to it lovely…

  14. Totally with you on this, and for me it’s all about sugar! I have had so much energy since being on GAPS, I cannot advocate it enough xx

  15. That’s great Tas, do you find that it helps his skin? Couch to 5k is supposed to be awesome, I really wanted to do it this summer but a hungry breastfeeding baby stopped me in my tracks. Maybe next Spring…

  16. It really is lovely, truly believing in the positivity is pretty life changing stuff xx

  17. When life throws us lemons we can choose to get bogged down and wallow in it, or we can choose to make ourselves a G&T and move forward with a smile on our face. I know which option I prefer πŸ™‚

  18. Wow! What a great attitude you have πŸ™‚ I certainly need to change mine and my way of eating, it really has gone out of kilter over the last few months and I am really not happy about it. Tomorrow is another day as they say. #PoCoLo

  19. You sound very disciplined, the complete opposite to me πŸ˜€ I do definitely believe in PMA though, life is better by following that!

  20. Brilliant post. I think PMA is so important. I’ve been trying to teach myself over the last few years to do more of that, as I used to be such a pessimist! I read a few things on something called Inner Engineering and even though I haven’t committed fully to doing the teachings, it really resonated with me. Being healthier is something I need to do, but I am such a glutton. At least I do exercise which is my saving grace! #PoCoLo

  21. Great post – I have a half written book along the same lines… 4 kids, 3 with additional needs… several animals and three Blogs. Hmm #PoCoLo

  22. I am struggling so I cant share you any secret and I am wishing that I can do just one of the things that is written in this post. I really wanted a healthier lifestyle. #pocolo

  23. Sounds great! There’s definitely a link between what you eat and productivity – when I eat crap, I feel crap. The bit about doing something positive every day resonated with me – I feel I need a sense of purpose, something to make the days feel worth living. x #PoCoLo

  24. I love reading about your food journey. We are trying to eat a lot cleaner now to control the hubby’s eczema. I definitely need to do more exercise though. I am almost tempted to go running.

  25. You are definitely doing it much better than I! But there are days when I don’t procrastinate and I feel I get it done! Positive attitude is everything xx

  26. People always ask me this but I agree with you – I think attitude has a lot to do with it. I try hard to have a can-do attitude which is not always easy with Fibromyalgia. Well done on the book draft – fingers crossed for a happy agent for you.

  27. Baby wearing, especially as they get bigger (hello 20 months!!) is fantastic exercise πŸ™‚ Positive thinking is a must. I absolutely love that quote Sophie xx

  28. Thank you for such a lovely comment Katie. These three things definitely help to ensure I’m at the top of my game, glad they do for you too… there are only so many hours in the day, and we shouldn’t be putting too much pressure on ourselves to do and be everything xx

  29. Totally have to stay one step ahead, which can be tricky in the really early days but becomes a complete necessity πŸ˜‰

  30. What a lovely thing to say Karen, I’m thrilled to have inspired you!!

  31. Impressive stuff πŸ™‚ Diet and exercise are sooo important. I’m pretty good on the first one, apart from too much wine. But I’m still finding it so hard to fit much exercise in! Though of course wearing a hefty 20 month old most of the time probably helps… I can’t agree more about the PMA too. One of my favourite quotes to motivate kids when I was teaching was ‘whether you believe you’ll succeed or believe you’ll fail, you’ll be right’. The mind is such a powerful thing! xx

  32. Wow! Fascinating stuff! I’m always aware that I don’t often eat as well as I should and you’re totally right, it’s quite incredible how awful a poor diet can make us feel.

    Agree with you on the exercise front, walking is brilliant exercise, plus when you’re a mum (often an absolutely shattered one!) it’s just good to get out there too and blow those cobwebs away.

    For me, I try and be positive wherever possible and also, to remember, that there are only so many hours in the day! Lovely post, thanks for sharing! x

  33. Great post lovely and I think as mums we have to do everything we can think of to stay one step ahead. Sounds as though you have everything sussed!

  34. Great post and has inspired me to look at myself, my productivity and things I’d like to improve etc. It sounds like you are doing really well with things and fantastic you’ve completed your first draft of your book! πŸ™‚ #MagicMoments

  35. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that the offers start coming through πŸ™‚ look forward to reading your stories… and blog posts…

  36. Had viewings every day last week, but no offers yet… I’m hoping that they’ll get back to me next week.
    I’m just writing a post explaining why I’ve been away from blogs – mainly trying to use my spare time to write a story.

  37. Thanks lovely. How are things your end? Any closer to moving house?

  38. I would love that too!

  39. Thanks so much Denise, it’s a small book πŸ˜‰ i’d love for you to read it and write a review at some point…

  40. You have such a positive energy about you at the moment. To finish a first draft of a book is an amazing thing (speaking as one who has taken a year to get half way through hers).

  41. It really does make a huge difference!

  42. I definitely think a positive mental attitude helps with so many day to day things. Great post. #MagicMoments

  43. awww thanks lovely i am going to take some baby steps once the kids are back at school/nursery x

  44. Thanks my dear. If you ever need food advice just give me a shout πŸ™‚

  45. Thanks so much Fiona! I feel that making changes in these three areas would help turn around anyone’s life πŸ™‚

  46. Thanks so much Sarah! Really pleased that becoming self employed has helped you to be more relaxed…working in an unenjoyable environment is soul destroying πŸ™

  47. Thanks so much Mel, now the fun part where it’s out of my hands. Currently waiting with baited breath to see if an agent will snap it up. Keep your fingers crossed for me xx

  48. Thanks Sam x

  49. Love that you shudder at the mere thought of negativity! Sounds like we have a very similar outlook on life lovely…

  50. Thanks so much Vicki. The diet is only hard work in social situations where there’s temptation everywhere…usually it’s absolutely fine and I’m enjoying this feeling of healing so much now that I’ve got my head around what it all entails. Positive thinking rocks πŸ™‚

  51. you are inspirational lovely .. i so need to take on eating better, i am just such a lazy cook i need to be more proactive and sort it out as i am feeling drained and sluggish!

    thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments

  52. So great to share a little bit about how you cope with day to day life, I think so many people could benefit mentally and physically from the three things you mentioned. Dropping in from Magic Moments.

  53. sarahmo3w says:

    I love this! I have a reasonably good diet (nowhere near as good as yours though!) and do a fair amount of exercise. I am always wide awake and full of energy. I slightly lack the positive mental attitude, but I’m better than I used to be. Taking myself out of going to work in an office has been really good for me and I’m a much happier, more relaxed person than I used to be.

  54. I am always impressed when I read your posts. Being positive rather than dwelling on the past makes such a difference. Well done for completing the first draft of your book! x

  55. Inspiring as always! πŸ™‚ X

  56. I second Vicki’s comment! I think you’re amazing too. I’m not sure how you stick to the diet either. Me? I’m a great advocate of positivity, no negativity. Even typing the word makes me shudder! That with exercise (running), reiki self-treatment and crystal meditation πŸ™‚ I’ve had depression previously as you know, and I do go on about positivity but it works!!

  57. Great blog post! I still think you are amazing. Just sticking to that diet means you are amazing…everything else you do on top makes you super woman!! PMA is so important. I studied to become a practitioner of NLP a couple of years ago which really helped me to deal with stuff more positively.

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