It brings me pleasure to bring you a guest post from award winning blogger Michelle Reeves today. Michelle blogs at The Joy Chaser, and The Essex Barn, she is also a life coach, MIND charity ambassador, entrepreneur and busy mama of two. Michelle is passionate about helping busy mamas and bloggers become their most positive, powerful and productive selves. Over to you Michelle…
Have you ever felt overwhelmed?
When I think about the times I’ve felt completely overwhelmed I get all sweaty and uncomfortable – like I’m reliving the whole thing over again. Churning stomach, tumbling thoughts, rising panic… eurgh it’s a horrible place to be.
For example, in 2009 I hit rock bottom. After a successful career in the City I was struggling to get through each day. I was an expat in China, with a premature baby daughter who struggled to feed or sleep, and I didn’t really care what happened to me. Overwhelm hit me like a brick. On the day I was diagnosed with Post Natal Depression my new start – my journey back to ME – began.
And step by step, day by day, I found myself again
I started blogging around this time and having a creative outlet was definitely an essential part of my therapy. But while I became a positive person on the outside – full of energy and busyness on the inside – my glass was still almost permanently half empty.
I strongly believe that negativity can become a habit – it was for me. Through therapy, time and support I recovered from postnatal depression but even so negativity was my first reaction to a situation, with negative words often tumbling out of my mouth before my brain had time to engage and stop them. And whenever I felt overwhelmed in a situation it would rear it’s head again.
When I feel overwhelmed I want to run away, I want to escape, bury my head in the sand, or at least in a good book or an afternoon of trashy tv. But I know from experience that it really doesn’t help… the reasons I feel overwhelmed in the first place are still there lurking in the background ready to bubble back up to the surface again.
One of the questions I’ve been asked most since I launched The Joy Chaser is how I broke this habit of negativity and how I continue to stay positive and overcome that horrible feeling of overwhelm on a daily basis.
As a business owner, blogger, ambassador for the MIND mental health charity and a mum of two, it’s sometimes tough to find time in the day for ME, let alone anything else!
But I DO find the time for me. Every. Single. Day. And I feel passionately that every woman should try to do the same. As busy mamas, wives, sisters, daughters, colleagues so much of our daily routines revolve around everyone BUT ourselves, right? And I was in that exact, same place. Wanting to take a time-out (without feeling guilty about it) to discover my more positive, happier and successful self.
My default negativity took time to build up and become a part of my life. So if I wanted positivity and joy to be part of my every day, it followed that they needed to become habits too. To break the habit of negativity I realised I needed to create a new normal – a new routine that would intentionally create the space in my day to help me practice positive habits – my 8 happiness habits – every single day and help to overcome that feeling of overwhelm.
So I created one. A routine that gives me time back for ME. That boosts my positivity and self-esteem every day. That helps me reach what I call my ‘I’m-a-mama-but-still-me’ goals. That sets me on the right course, with purpose, every morning and puts me to bed with gratitude.
And it worked. People started noticing the new, more positive me and I knew that I had to share it with others. So I urge you, find a routine that works for YOU, make time in the day for YOU. Even just 15 minutes to yourself can make all the difference to your wellbeing.
You can sign up here for Michelle’s free 5-day email challenge How to Overcome Overwhelm
Michelle is also the creator of 8-week eCourse The Happiness Habits Routine™
The course was designed to help busy mamas create their own simple daily routine using eight happiness habits. Michelle is offering Mummy Tries readers a 10% discount on the course until 30 November 2016. Just use the code MUMMYTRIES at checkout. You can find out more about the course at HappinessHabitsRoutine.com
Thanks so much for chatting to us and sharing your story today Michelle. The course sounds wonderful, and I’m sure many busy mum’s will benefit from it!