Technically speaking I have three sisters, one brother, a mother and two fathers. I’m also an auntie to five kids that I know of, and this year became a great auntie (not too happy about that title!) It’s complicated though, and I’m completely estranged from most of them, hardly see some of them and don’t even exist to a handful of them. As in they do not know of my existence. My father had an affair with my mother when he was engaged to the woman that is now his wife, and 34 years later hasn’t had the guts to come clean. I told you it was complicated.
With this kind of family set up it stands to reason that my friends have always meant a lot to me, but they have become even more important since I entered the world of mummy-hood. Lets be honest here – as amazing and rewarding as our little ones are, it can also be an overwhelmingly isolating experience at times. When we’re in the midst of suffering the worst end of the sleep spectrum, and my mind isn’t thinking straight, I’ve managed to convinced myself that I am completely alone. Even though I’m surrounded by people that love me.
It’s really easy to do though, and when the thoughts start spinning out of control they can propel me to a very dark place. Fortunately I’m a fairly grounded person these days, and that frame of mind doesn’t last too long. With baby #3 on his way in just three months time, chances are my world will get turned upside down for the remainder of next year. I decided this week that I was going to make even more of an effort to be in touch with (and see where possible) my nearest and dearest as often as I can beforehand. I set about calling, Skype-ing, emailing and have probably given myself RSI through texting. My calendar now doesn’t have a free slot until January. My lovely lot are worth their weight in gold though, and they must be cherished and made to feel as important as they are.
What are your views on friendship? Do you have lots or just a selected few? Are you super close to your family and have a best friend in a sibling? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section.