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Editing and Flashing #amwriting

I had a professional editor critique my book, and was sent the report on Monday afternoon. After reading it several times to fully take on board his suggestions I started thinking of changes that needed to be made. I don’t usually get the time to write during the day on a Tuesday but was presented with the holy grail of dual parenting – both kids napping at the same time – and my editing got off to a flying start.

I did some more work on it on Wednesday, and even put in an hour on Thursday morning before my first day back at work. I didn’t spend much time writing over the weekend, but had a massive session yesterday and can feel the end is in sight. I am desperate to stick to my self imposed deadline of Halloween, because now that I’ve gone back to work I have even less time on my hands to write. Coupled with the fact that my baby is already trying to crawl and my toddler is so desperate for my attention at the moment, it isn’t fair to work on the book when they’re are awake.

editing quoteOne of the main things the editor said was that I needed more of me in the book. More details, more elaboration. It’s what I’ve heard time and again so I’ve filled in lots of little gaps from my own life story. In trying not to be too ‘me me me’ I went the other way, and he described it as being shown the back of my hand. That certainly isn’t the case now.

He also said that it’s absolutely essential to put my face to the book, anonymity would not work with a project like this. Regular readers will know that I’ve already been formulating a plan to ‘come out’ which will coincide with my brand new look blog in a few weeks time. It’s all very exciting, but scary too. I have my reasons for blogging incognito, otherwise I would have put my name to Mummy Tries from the beginning.


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  1. […] Country Kids linky for a few weeks because life has been unbelievably busy (have a read here and here for details of what I’ve been up to). With my time being as stretched as it is I’ve had […]

  2. This all sounds very exciting, I am sure it must feel a bit alien and scary to be considering outing yourself. But I’m sure it will all be worth it 🙂 xx

  3. You are doing such an outstanding job lovely lady and I have been following your blogging journey for so long now I feel like I know you (but not!). I am so excited to be able to see you properly and also see what your new blog looks like. You have my support all the way, you are doing such an amazing job. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 x

  4. I read this on Tuesday but it was Flat Pack day and I forgot to comment!! I think it’s probably right that there is plenty of you in the book – otherwise it could end up just a bit of a self-help book without the human interest. Bit scary (if exciting!) to lose the anonymity though! I’m really looking forward to be able to address you by your name – I feel like you are a friend and yet I don’t know your name which is weird!! Good luck with the flash fiction competition – I don’t know where you find the time! Have a great weekend with your little clan, hon X

  5. Sounds so exciting – I’m so up and down with my writing at the moment….. my mojo keeps vanishing lol! #PoCoLo (PS am v excited to discover the real YOU!)

  6. Wow well done you! I am looking forward to seeing you. I felt that I know you and yet not really as I havent seen you yet. I wish I really have your discipline in so many aspects (like food and writing) =) #pocolo

  7. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) says:

    Wow busy busy busy and definitely exciting!!! Its all sounding very positive and I look forward to your new look blog and ‘coming out!’ Xx

  8. This is all so exciting!! It sounds a busy time for you! I can’t wait for you to say it’s published! Good luck x

  9. It’s all so exciting, and ridiculously busy for you! Looking forward to your ‘coming out’, too! Thanks for sharing with #WotW x

  10. Wow this is really coming along now lovely!! I’m very excited for you and it really does sound like the end is in sight! So great to have got some input from that editor!
    I’m also excited about your blog makeover/coming out!!!

  11. That is very exciting – I’m so glad that things are going well with your book and I’m so looking forward to hearing it’s published! Good luck with everything 🙂

  12. Twinlifeonline says:

    sounds like you book is really coming along well. It’s great when you manage to find to work at a project that means a lot to you. Good luck with the rest of it x.

  13. I’d love to read more about you in the book. I’m not sure what self help books are meant to be like but I like personal stories. Keep going!!! Love your drive about this book, I’m sure it’ll be fantastic!

  14. Sounds as though you have so much going on in your life right now! Good luck with everything x

  15. sarahmo3w says:

    That’s really useful input from your editor. I love the way you are working on this so quickly and have set yourself such an early deadline. It can’t be easy to balance with small children and going back to work, yet you are doing it! Look forward to reading about the next stage.

  16. Good luck with the flashing. How did work go?
    I’m very curious about the book now. X

  17. Im glad 😉 Thanks for linking up to #WonderfulWorldofWriting

  18. Thank you so much Maddy. I’ve really enjoyed writing those little stories, and they’ve certainly whet my appetite for more fiction. Lots of ideas are now rattling around 😉 New blog should be unveiled next weekend, very exciting xxx

  19. Thank you lovely, I’m rather touched by the feedback I’ve received that people will want to know more about me… I guess we’re going to find out soon enough if I make my Halloween deadline xx

  20. tee hee, I know what you mean 😉 I’ve now completed my edits and feel it’s a much stronger book as a result. Fingers crossed I can stick to my deadline!

  21. Thanks so much Emily. It’s not been a decision I’ve made lightly – I reveal much more personal information than most people are prepared to. Had I put my face to the blog in the first instance I’m not sure that I would have been so free and easy with my sharing. I’m glad I have been though, because it’s all an integral part of who I am and how I got to be this person. New blog should go live by next weekend. Excited!

  22. Thanks so much Sadie. First round of edits now complete and have been sent off to my trusty test readers. I definitely feel I’m on the right now, and adding in the extra details definitely makes for a better book.

  23. All will be revealed very very soon my lovely. Hope I don’t disappoint after all this anticipation 😉

  24. Now that is exciting! Fingers crossed for us both lovely xx

  25. I know what you mean hon, and thank you 🙂

  26. Not quite sure I’m loving every minute but it’s certainly exhilarating!!

  27. Exciting times! It sounds like you’re super busy but loving it. I can’t wait for the big reveal. 🙂 #WhatImWriting

  28. Oh im so looking forward to your new look blog and everything that’s coming with it 🙂 not that I don’t like your blog as it is… Oh, I’ll get my coat… #whatimwriting

  29. Sounds like the editing it going brilliantly. My self-imposed deadline is Halloween too so hopefully we’ll both be celebrating then! 🙂 I’m loving your flash fiction. It’s such a fun genre I think, and I really want to try to do more. Good luck with the comp!! xx

  30. I continue to be completely in awe of how much you are managing to fit in/achieve at the moment! I’ve loved your flash fiction and I’m looking forward to reading more 🙂 And I’m very excited to hear that we might soon know a bit more about ‘you’ ! #whatimwriting

  31. Gosh, it sounds like you are super, super busy at the moment and you are trying to fit everything in as best as you can. The idea of putting more of you into your book sounds like a very good suggestion and will it make it even more relatable. #whatimwriting

  32. It must be a tricky decision to stop being anonymous, especially when your book is based on your personal experience. I agree with your editor though, people will relate to the book more when they know more about you. Good luck with it and looking forward to the new look blog!

  33. I agree with the others. Make it personable so that people can relate to your story. On another note, what with the ‘flashing’ in the title and the ‘coming out’ reference in the post, steady on there – we’re getting a bit too personal now!! (only kidding, of course – in case that doesn’t come through in the way it’s written!)

  34. I agree, it’s the ‘you’ in this book that is the hook. I totally understand your concerns about losing the anonymity, but i think in the long term it will be the right decision, especially as you’ve come so far already x

  35. maddy@writingbubble says:

    I’m really glad you’re going to put more of ‘you’ in your book! I always thought that the ‘you’ bits of it would be its USP and a reason to read it above others – bet it will be so inspiring! You have such a lot going on at the mo, I’m so impressed you’re fitting flash fiction in too. I’ve loved your stories so far and it’s great you’re trying something new. Looking forward to the new blog and name unveiling! Thanks for linking to #WhatImWriting xxx

  36. Putting so much ‘me’ into the book contradicts the research I did about the self-help genre, which is why I’ve been holding back. But between your feedback, that of another friend and the editor’s report I think I would be crazy not to. It’s been interesting to write some of the additional bits, and piecing together how I managed to get from there to here. Thanks for saying that about my blog, it means a lot!

  37. Please do put more of yourself into it! I am so glad your editor said that, “you” is really why those of us who follow your blog do it – there are millions of blogs out there, yet *yours* is the one we chose. Good luck with the rewrite, and with the flash fiction competition.

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