Eradicating Negative Parenting Behaviour

Eradicating Negative Parenting Behaviour

Over Christmas hubby and I read and started following the program in the book 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child. The title gives the game away and sums up what you can expect. Follow the advice given by the author, a leading child and family psychotherapist, and within ten days you will have a less defiant child on your hands. Day One is all about taking a step back and recognising your own negative parenting behaviours, which I’ve detailed below. Reading about the detrimental long term effects these behaviours can have on the children was sobering to say the least. I can imagine every single parent on the …

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child – Part Two

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child – Part Two

Those that read Part One will know that the holidays were anything but happy happy joy joy in my house. By Christmas Eve our eldest daughter’s behaviour was at an all time low, and not in the cutesy way that most kids act when they’re over excited about Santa’s imminent visit. Her sheer cruelty towards her younger sister was having an awful knock on effect and hubby and I were properly in the doldrums. Feeding baby boy and feeling useless as a bedtime meltdown was playing out in the room next door, I downloaded a book that looked like it might just save my little family. Hubby and …

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child – Part One

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child – Part One

Anyone regularly following this blog will know that my hubby and I have had our hands full with our eldest daughter for quite some time. At 5½ she’s a tricky little customer. She’s difficult to please and prone to focusing on the negative. She is explosive and frequent temper tantrums and outbursts of violence have been too often on display. We’ve always been fairly harsh on discipline, especially when she has hurt her brother or sister, but although we have had several breakthroughs, ultimately it just hasn’t got through to her that it’s wrong to behave this way. The cold hard fact was her behaviour had …

ANGER

ANGER

It’s been well documented here that my 5yo is a tricky little character. She suffers from multiple food intolerance, only sleeps through the night a couple of times a week (if we’re lucky!) and at five has full scale meltdowns most toddlers aren’t capable of. I firmly believe they are all linked – the stomach problems and eczema make her uncomfortable which drives the lack of sleep and the sleep deprivation drives the bad behaviour. It’s a vicious cycle that needs to be broken, but won’t be until we get to the very root of the problem and set to work fixing it. We are currently awaiting an appointment …

learning to ride a bike

Learning to ride a bike

We bought our 4yo a bike for her birthday this summer. You know the kind – bright pink with tassels on the handlebars, a bag for important things at the front and a seat for baby at the back. She absolutely loves it, and her and hubby usually spend a good couple of hours each weekend learning to ride. At first she was quite scared of it, especially the wobbly sensation when slowing down. In fact she’d rather fall off than remain on the bike while it wobbled a bit. Over the last few weeks though she’s really got the …