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Changing my Attitude

How changing my attitude was vital for turning family life around December last year was a dark time for me. My little family were on a constant loop of illness, both the baby and the 5yo’s sleep were in dire straights, and our girl’s behaviour was at an all time low. After a disastrous Xmas Eve Hubby and I read the fantastic book 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child. We spent the entire Xmas holiday doing everything in our power to eradicate our own negative parenting behaviours, which were without a doubt having a massive effect on the kids. After a week of being super …

10 days to a less defiant child

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child – Part Two

Those who read part one of this two part piece will know that the holidays were anything but happy happy joy joy in my house. By Christmas Eve our eldest daughter’s behaviour was at an all time low, and not in the cutesy way that most kids act when they’re over excited about Santa’s imminent visit. Her sheer cruelty towards her younger sister was having an awful knock on effect and hubby and I were properly in the doldrums. Feeding baby boy and feeling useless as a bedtime meltdown was playing out in the room next door, I downloaded a book that looked like it might …

10 days to a less defiant child

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child – Part One

Anyone regularly following this blog will know that my hubby and I have had our hands full with our eldest daughter for quite some time. At 5½ she’s a tricky little customer. She’s difficult to please and prone to focusing on the negative. She is explosive and frequent temper tantrums and outbursts of violence have been too often on display. We’ve always been fairly harsh on discipline, especially when she has hurt her brother or sister, but although we have had several breakthroughs, ultimately it just hasn’t got through to her that it’s wrong to behave this way. The cold hard fact was her behaviour had …

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ANGER

It’s been well documented here that my 5yo is a tricky little character. She suffers from multiple food intolerance, only sleeps through the night a couple of times a week (if we’re lucky!) and at five has full scale meltdowns most toddlers aren’t capable of. I firmly believe they are all linked – the stomach problems and eczema make her uncomfortable which drives the lack of sleep and the sleep deprivation drives the bad behaviour. It’s a vicious cycle that needs to be broken, but won’t be until we get to the very root of the problem and set to work fixing it. We are currently awaiting an appointment …