Autism Awareness Day 2019

World Autism Awareness Day 2019: What I Know about My Daughter’s Autism

There are many lessons I’ve learnt since my eldest daughter Polly’s autism diagnosis in 2015. Some things have come fairly easily, others have felt like a perpetual battle. For world autism awareness day 2019, I thought I’d share some of these with you. Sending love to anyone struggling, I hope this piece helps. Almost all meltdowns and episodes of ‘bad behaviour’ stem from anxiety It took me a while to figure out that every single time Polly acts up, there is a deeper reason. As all autism mama’s and papa’s know, meltdowns are not the same as temper tantrums, they come …

BAPS Awards

Shortlist for the #BAPSAwards (I’m a Finalist in the Wellbeing Category)

Over the last few years I’ve watched in awe as blogging friends and acquaintances got dolled up and painted the town red at the BAPS Awards. These awards are to acknowledge those who are blogging about SEND (special education needs and disabilities). BAPS stands for bloody awesome parents, which makes these awards very special indeed. Parents who are up for these awards aren’t just anyone. They are mama’s, dada’s and all out warriors, advocating for their children to have a brighter future. Stories behind these families range from the everyday to the inspirational to the truly exceptional. Which is why …

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Dear Sad Mama, You Are Not Alone

Hey Sad Mama, I see you. I hear you. You are not alone, truly you aren’t. They say it’s good to talk, that a problem shared is a problem halved. They say we need to get out of our heads and put our mental health problems out there for all to see. They say we should tell anybody who cares about our feelings. That we should put them on the table and be explicit. Trouble is, the advice is getting a bit confusing. Unless we have people we can wholeheartedly rely on to help pull us out of our deep …

High Functioning Autism Through Polly’s Eyes

I wrote this piece because I wanted to try and convey what high functioning autism is like through Polly’s eyes. We sat together and read it, and I was fully expecting her to ask me to change some (most) of it. Instead she looked at me and said “mummy, I love it, it’s exactly how I feel.” Needless to say I ended up in floods of tears…  My name is Polly, and I’m almost nine years old. I look exactly the same as all the other kids my age, and I mostly act like them too. I’m not the same …

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When Your Eldest Child is Autistic

When your eldest child is autistic things don’t follow the standard format. You can’t rely on them to lead the way for your other kids, and some days, it hurts like hell. Oh I know what you’re thinking. That I should lower my expectations, and not put too many demands onto any of their shoulders (especially Polly’s). They’re just kids after all. Truthfully speaking, I do feel this way a lot of the time. We live in the real world though don’t we? And on the super challenging days not expecting anything and not being tempted to future gaze just isn’t …