Dear Polly

Dear Polly, Now You Are Ten

Dearest Polly, You’ve felt like this day would never arrive, but it’s here. You’re ten now – the big double digit birthday all your friends have been excitedly chattering about for too long. Unlike other birthdays, where you’ve simply been excited, ten has brought with it a mixed bag of emotions. Like you’re desperate to grow up, but don’t want to, all at once. You’re not quite sure what’s lurking around the corner, and as someone who likes to know what’s going on in advance, this is causing your mind to go into overdrive. I’m writing you this letter because …

autism help

Autism Help: What Has Truly Worked For My 10yo Daughter Since Her Diagnosis in 2015 and What “Advice” I’ve Ignored

If you type “autism help” into Google, the first things that come up are adverts. Essentially trying to sell you solutions to your child’s autism. Then come the guides and articles that certainly look helpful. In a very generic, written-by-experts type of way. I’m not claiming to be an expert, by any stretch of the imagination. I’m just a mum of three, whose eldest daughter happens to be autistic. A mum who spent three solid years teetering on the edge of a mental breakdown. Forced into home education by an under funded and uncaring school system. One who has been …

Are You Guilty of these Negative Parenting Traits?

A few years ago, before autism diagnoses and home education and understanding our family dynamic better, my husband and I started following the advice in a book called 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child. The title gives the game away and pretty much sums up what you can expect. Follow the ten day programme by the author – who happens to be a leading child and family psychotherapist – and within ten days you will have a less defiant child on your hands. Day One is all about taking a step back and recognising your own negative parenting traits.  Reading …

Autism Awareness Day 2019

World Autism Awareness Day 2019: What I Know about My Daughter’s Autism

There are many lessons I’ve learnt since my eldest daughter Polly’s autism diagnosis in 2015. Some things have come fairly easily, others have felt like a perpetual battle. For world autism awareness day 2019, I thought I’d share some of these with you. Sending love to anyone struggling, I hope this piece helps. Almost all meltdowns and episodes of ‘bad behaviour’ stem from anxiety It took me a while to figure out that every single time Polly acts up, there is a deeper reason. As all autism mama’s and papa’s know, meltdowns are not the same as temper tantrums, they come …

BAPS Awards

Shortlist for the #BAPSAwards (I’m a Finalist in the Wellbeing Category)

Over the last few years I’ve watched in awe as blogging friends and acquaintances got dolled up and painted the town red at the BAPS Awards. These awards are to acknowledge those who are blogging about SEND (special education needs and disabilities). BAPS stands for bloody awesome parents, which makes these awards very special indeed. Parents who are up for these awards aren’t just anyone. They are mama’s, dada’s and all out warriors, advocating for their children to have a brighter future. Stories behind these families range from the everyday to the inspirational to the truly exceptional. Which is why …