Book Update Four: Why and Who?

write a book

When I first started writing my book last year I reached out to my favourite psychologist and author to ask for his advice. I’m truly touched that he took the time to respond and have held his words close ever since. One of the things he said was to not lose sight of why I’m writing the book and for whom it is intended for. Such simple wisdom, but I can imagine it would be too easy to do if you weren’t aware of it.

Why have I written this book?

I didn’t go to uni but during the years I would have done I lived in a hardcore party house with a dozen or so crazy antipodeans. Every time I regaled them with a story from my childhood someone would pipe up ‘you have to write a book’. Over the years many more people have said the same thing to me and it’s ended up being a personal goal of mine for a while now.

Starting Mummy Tries was the first step to writing about my past, and blogging has helped me form great writing habits. Then a chance encounter with a literary agent last year gave me the idea for it to be a self-help book. My aim is to be able to put my dysfunctional past to good use and help others turn their lives around the way I did.

Who have I written the book for?

My ideal target audience is women in their late teens or twenties that are lacking in confidence and have lost their way. Perhaps they had a difficult childhood or a bad experience early on. They are looking for guidance and need some easy to read, straight talking advice to help sort their heads out. I hope to be able to engage the reader from word one, and rather than me bang on and on telling them what to do, I’d like to empower them to start making their own good decisions.

I’ve also been cautious not to completely kill the book with my own story, and have tried my best to keep the autobiographical parts succinct. I have a half written memoir lurking in Evernote, and am thinking of turning it into a novel if I get this one published. It’s safe to say that I have been well and truly bitten by the writing bug!

My 11 page critique came back from the editor today. Overall the feedback was positive and he’s included lots of very constructive advice on how to ensure the book will reach its full potential. I have a fair bit of work to do on it now, but nothing so daunting that I feel like throwing in the towel. It will mean blogging less but that’s fine, this has to be my number one priority right now.

Watch this space!



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  1. Ahhh sleep, that teeny tiny word that causes all the mischief!!

  2. Lucky thing you! My evenings are taken up by children, chores and the hubby. Oh yes, and sleep. 😉

  3. […] who read my update last week will know that I had a professional editor critique my book, and was sent the report on Monday […]

  4. I know that you have been wanting to do this for such a long time now and it is wonderful to start to see it happen through your blog. I will be right there reading it when it comes out and I am so pleased to hear that things are starting to come to fruition for you lovely lady. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 xx

  5. So great to read about how the idea for your book came about and how far you are with it already. Good luck with focusing on your number one priority! 🙂 xx

  6. franglaisemummy says:

    That sounds so amazing! And it certainly sounds like an interesting book too, do keep us informed as things move forwards.

  7. sarahmo3w says:

    That’s brilliant. 11 pages of advice has to be really helpful – just the right amount to not feel overwhelmed, but to be able to make it work. Good luck with the next stage!

  8. Thanks so much for your comment. You’re right about that – it’s definitely the fitting it all in that’s the hardest. If I could be given an entire day to write with no distractions, I reckon I could see these edits off… not going to happen though, so the juggle goes on 😉 xx

  9. Hello there, good for you-it’s so exciting, and how wonderful to be able to write a book. It’s hard fitting everything but well done for making it work-looking forward to seeing the end results! x #sharewithme

  10. […] It was 4:32am – a most ungodly hour. Too early to log into work so I continued with the edits on my book which I started yesterday. After an hour of this I got a head start on reducing the 700-odd emails […]

  11. thank so much for your support hon xx

  12. This is so amazing. Well done! I’d love to write a book so its brilliant to see someone actually going out and doing it.

  13. Oh I’m so pleased for your positive feedback 🙂 I will miss you blogging so much but that’s the way it goes when we have personal goals, I know. Well done again 🙂 #WhatImWriting

  14. That’s fantastic that you are getting feedback and taking it on board and working on your book. That’s the most important thing. I am definitely watching this space. Go you! Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again soon. #sharewithme

  15. That’s fine with me! I’m keen to read book news. X

  16. Ahhh thanks Angie! If I need some cheerleading I know where to come, what a lovely uplifting comment xx

  17. Thanks so much Tas!

  18. Thank you very much! I really hope so 🙂

  19. Thanks you so much hon xx

  20. That’s what I’m hoping for hon, a marketing plan for how to reach the people most needy of the book is next on the list after getting it publishable! Blogging is fab but I think most of my posts over the next month or so are going to be book related rather than family driven xx

  21. It really has done Emily, I know it’s going to be such a better book once I’ve made the changes. It was also reassuring to hear that I’m on the right track with certain things.

  22. Thanks so much Sophie, I love that ‘convinced and convincing’ fabulous xx

  23. Thanks so much lovely, just need to do it now!!

  24. Thanks lovely. I see you have said something similar on your own blog today, less blogging = more writing time… I’ll still blog in the evenings as I’m not capable of book stuff then xx

  25. Thanks Nikki, it’s definitely coming together but still lots of work to be done…

  26. Makes complete sense Iona! I’ve just spent two solid hours working on it and it’s definitely coming together… lots more to do though, and it’s frustrating to think the next opportunity I will get to work on the book is next Monday. I’m just too tired in the evenings!

  27. Wow. So many people say “I’m gonna write a book” and NEVER move themselves in the direction to actually DO IT. It seems so surreal to me…manuscripts, editor…feedback. I think focusing on your goal is the best thing for you if it brings you closer to actually getting published. Good luck integrating all of the feedback you received and I’m sure you are learning and growing tremendously from this experience. Best of luck and we’ll all be here for your updates!

    Angie from reasons to dress

  28. It’s a good plan and I love that you’re so focused on doing it. Best of luck, can’t wait to read it once you’ve finished 🙂

  29. Gracious, a proper author, eh?! Well done for taking the plunge and being able to listen to the feedback. No doubt you’ll be published soon. Best of luck, this is a big step. Enjoy the moment

  30. I know I say this everytime, but still so excited for you! Having the critique back from the editor, and it being mostly positive must be really motivating- hope the tweaking goes well! x

  31. Well done on the positive. From what I know about the book, it’ll be good for anyone feeling that they’re stuck in a hole of not coping. (Are the dysfunctional years the ones you mentioned on my blog?!)

    Blogging does take up a lot of time and I agree that you have to set your focus and go for it. Xxx

  32. It’s great to hear you got such a useful response, I think it’s a valuable learning experience and really makes you think about how to structure your writing. Good luck with the next step!

  33. It must be brilliant to have such comprehensive feedback! Glad the editor seems to be on the same wavelength as you too so you feel you can use it 🙂 Great to read a bit more about the motivation behind your book – every time you write about it you sound more convinced and convincing which is fab. Good luck with honing it even more xx

  34. That’s wonderful! So pleased that the feedback has been constructive and useful, not that I ever doubted it would be 🙂 We’ll miss you on the blog, but your book is definitely the priority! #allaboutyou

  35. Brilliant! Constructive criticism is always useful and it’s great that you haven’t been put off by the editor’s response. Will miss reading your posts but get on with that editing – we’re all behind you. xx

  36. I agree with Iona that the editing process is a positive step. Getting positive constructive criticism back from an editor is great. It will give you focus to take it to the next level. Good luck.

  37. Thats great to hear. I actually like the editing process as it feels like you’re moulding and shaping into a form you like. Does that makes any sense?! I agree too, I think the book would benefit hugely from personal anecdotes etc-it makes it feel more connected I think.

  38. Thanks Maddy, that’s what the editor has said and some other people too. That my own story is the main USP so I should make more of it. I guess I haven’t wanted to go on and on and on about me the whole time but in doing that I’ve maybe gone a little too far in the other direction. The good news is that it’s easily rectifiable and shouldn’t take me too long. Thanks for the luck lovely, always appreciated xx

  39. Thanks hon! Really have to knuckle down now. I’m going to use the kids nap time tomorrow morning to get as much done as I possibly can… 2yo slept for four hours yesterday but knowing my luck with wake after half an hour tomorrow 😉 I’ve got to get my skates on if I’m going to make my Halloween deadline. Yowzers xxx

  40. Thanks lovely xx

  41. maddy@writingbubble says:

    Exciting stuff! Sounds like using an editor was a good move – you now have enough stuff to work on to make it the best book it can be but not so much that you’re outfaced. The perfect balance. Good luck with it all. (Oh and personally, I love the fact you’re putting personal stuff into the book – that would be a massive draw to me and not off-putting at all.) Thanks for linking to #WhatImWriting

  42. Le Coin de Mel says:

    You have to make time for your book and that is completely understandable. Your being quieter on the blog will be odd, but it is for a great cause! Good luck making the adjustments. Xx

  43. Ah! We’ll miss you, but you need to perfect the manuscript – I can understand that. X

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