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Beware: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy

I have to say that I’m getting a bit peed off by all the blog posts, tweets and Facebook statuses implying that people are dreading the school holidays. As if spending six weeks at home with their kids is the worst thing that will happen to them this year. Here’s an idea: if you think something will be hideous it more than likely will be. It becomes the worst kind of self fulfilling prophecy.

I’m writing this post on the train to work, it’s not even 7am and I’m not feeling great. At 10(ish) weeks pregnant with my third child, I don’t need to bore you with the ins and outs of my constant nausea and sheer exhaustion. However, one thing that’s guaranteed to make me feel even worse is constantly going on about how crap I feel. The saying ‘I think, therefore I am’ springs to mind. So many things are completely out of our control – over analysing and dwelling will get us nowhere.

Rather than dread something and build it up in my head to be a terrible event, I tend to focus on the positive side of a situation. If a positive seems impossible to find, then I try not to think about it at all. Us Brits usually love a good whinge, but I prefer to be grateful for all that’s fabulous in life and not waste my precious energy getting upset over what’s wrong with it.

If I were getting stressed out by the thought of the holidays I would write a list of all the things I’d like to do but couldn’t usually because of being restricted by school times. Top of my list would more than likely be catching up with my lovely friends that live miles away that I don’t get to see as often as I would like. Not having to rush around in the mornings would surely be in there somewhere. As would not having to contend with the mummy mafia at the gates. I say if because my eldest enters the school system in Sept… watch this space, my attitude might be different this time next year ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

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12 Comments

  1. Ahhh that’s so beautiful to hear xx

  2. Thanks so much Vicky… I sometimes wonder whether people are playing up to an internet role they’ve created for themselves and say negative things about their kids because they think people want to hear it? I’m sure you and Grace will have a fab time over the holidays x

  3. Woohoo! Bring on the sunshine, lateness and ice creams… who said school holidays were no fun?! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. Thank you, and sorry to hear you had such a rotten pregnancy!

  5. Thanks so much ๐Ÿ™‚ Fortunately the sickness is subsiding with each week that passes… second trimester here I come!!

  6. Totally with you on this! My son is only 10 months and I love spending every second with him. We’ll see how it goes as he gets older lol. Popping over from #PoCoLo

    Mum of a Premature Baby ||

  7. Can I be one of the Mums who is looking forward to the holidays so I can spend time with my daughter?! I also agree with self-fulfilling prophecy attitude :). Thanks for inking to PoCoLo x

  8. We have amazing weather there should be no dread. It is harder when it’s raining and the kids are stuck indoors being bored – but then we find it such a great opportunity to craft and create. Love the chance to let relax some of the rules – like bedtimes and eating too much ice-cream :O)
    #PoCoLo

  9. I’m definitely not dreading the holidays. In fact I’ve been looking forward to them. Perhaps I’ll think differently when my children are older.
    And hope your morning sickness gets better soon. With my first baby I was sick for the whole nine months and I must admit that I did find myself unable to muster too much positive thinking ๐Ÿ™

  10. Thanks Judith. We can swap notes at Easter ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. I’m totally with you. Always have a positive attitude and going on and on about how bad things are will always make them so much worse. And if you can think like that with morning(all day) sickness, then anyone can! And really, time spent with your children should be a thing to be looked for to, shouldn’t it?! My oldest breaks up from nursery today, and still has a year at preschool before school, so we’ll see if my opinion changes in a couple of years…! ๐Ÿ˜‰ #PoCoLo

  12. judithkingston says:

    I agree, this is my general attitude to life as well, focus on the positives! But then, my eldest doesn#t start school until january! ๐Ÿ™‚

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