It’s been well documented here that my 5yo is a tricky little character. She suffers from multiple food intolerance, only sleeps through the night a couple of times a week (if we’re lucky!) and at five has full scale meltdowns most toddlers aren’t capable of. I firmly believe they are all linked – the stomach problems and eczema make her uncomfortable which drives the lack of sleep and the sleep deprivation drives the bad behaviour. It’s a vicious cycle that needs to be broken, but won’t be until we get to the very root of the problem and set to work fixing it. We are currently awaiting an appointment (for some time in August) for an endoscopy and colonoscopy to be performed, so the doctors can have a proper investigation insider her and see what’s going on. They are looking for things like Coeliac Disease, Crohns Disease, Colitis.
Between now and then she must eat a fully gluten containing diet, which means two months hard work on Full GAPS went out the window. Dr. Campbell-McBride talks in the book about the toxicity of GAPS children’s brains, and how they don’t compute things in the way a healthy childs brain does. This could explain her tantrums! In order to reduce their toxic load as much as possible, they must eat super clean food, and be given good quality supplements. As of this week, in addition to 5yo’s probiotics and kefir she’s now taking fermented cod liver oil. Supposedly the absolute very best omega boost you can give your brain, and it also provides a whole host of other health benefits.
Since being back on gluten her behaviour has gone from bad to worse. In particular the rage and anger that she is capable of. She has been lashing out on a daily basis, and has even caused her five month old brother harm at points this week. She’s always been spiteful towards her sister, but in the last few days it’s gone to new levels. She tried to push her off the trampoline last night, then threw some wooden toy food at her head afterwards. Then there’s the snatching, the screaming in our faces, and crying uncontrollably at the slightest hint of being told no.
The tantrums get worse as the week goes on, and she becomes more tired. At the weekend we get back to relative normality but by the time Tuesday evening rolls around, things are pretty dire again. By Friday it’s all I can do to get them into bed at 6:30 and hope for an ok nights sleep. I’m fairly good at keeping calm most of the time, but when she goes for the little ones I’m afraid to say it’s another matter. My primal instinct to protect my young goes into overdrive, and my cool-as-a-cucumber-resolve gets lost somewhat. When I start getting angry it just adds fuel to the already smoking fire!
She had an after school strop that lasted a full forty minutes the other day, during which I was kicked and punched and scratched and told ‘I hate you’. When I finally managed to give her a cuddle, I asked why she was so angry. She looked at me sobbing, and said “I don’t know mama, I just am”. It broke my heart a little bit, because there is nothing I can do to help her when she’s in that state.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section if you do.