Unsugar Coated Motherhood

A Tea Party Hen Do


As I’ve mentioned before I moved house a lot as a kid, which wasn’t very conductive to forming strong friendships. I did make a bestie in the one area I spent a few years though (9-12 if my memory serves me correctly). She and I were inseparable at school and also lived on the same road. When I moved away she still came to visit, and when I moved back to London we spent heaps of time together again. She even dated my very first boyfriend’s best mate, and the four of us had lots of fun times.

Then she went off to uni and I got my ‘big break’ in the City. I also moved into a party house with a bunch of antipodean backpackers. We drifted apart and hardly spoke for about five years. We became Facebook friends when I joined in 2007, she was living in New Zealand at the time. Her mum got in touch just before my wedding in 2009, and I started regularly meeting up with her after my eldest was born. With her son a staunch bachelor, and her daughter on the other side of the world, she became a pseudo granny to 4yo for a while.

When my friend came back for holidays in both 2010 and 2011 we met up. Conversation always flowed and we re-established our bond, especially the second time which was at Christmas. I was heavily pregnant with 2yo and I felt she was genuinely sad to be going back to NZ and missing out. Turns out there were many things she felt that way about and was back at Easter with the intention of staying for three months.

Fortunately for me (and her mum, brother and other friends) she met her soon to be hubby within a matter of weeks. They instantly hit it off and just over two years later are getting married, while she’s six months pregnant.

Yesterday she was thrown a hens tea party, and her close group of friends went to an awful lot of effort to make it perfect. My hubby had the girls so I could just take baby and enjoy myself, which I did – thoroughly. It was great to meet all the people she has told me so much about. Great also that I’ve now met them before the wedding.

I survived my first proper social whilst sticking rigidly to GAPS (more to follow on my other blog). Baby boy did me proud by being immaculately well behaved, and not minding at all that he was passed around a group of strangers. There was even a beautician doing manicures and pedicures, and I now have gorgeous purple nails. All in all a fab day was had, and it was just what I needed after my odd week.



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  1. She is certainly a keeper xx

  2. It was lovely hon xx

  3. It was lovely hon. Our friendship is certainly for keeps xx

  4. Looks like you’ve had a great time! Friends are so important, and the ones that stand the test of time are definitely keepers 🙂 x (nice badge!)

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  6. honey this is fantastic and what a really great idea for a hen do!!

    thanks for lining up with #MagicMoments

  7. Thanks lovely, it was fab 🙂

  8. It really is Julie. Sounds silly but even during those years that we didn’t speak I knew we would one day and will always be friends.

  9. Some friendships stand the test of time like this one, which is just lovely. A hen tea party sounds like fun, what a great idea.

  10. What a lovely story of true friendship and the hen party sounds lovely. I’m a little jealous 😉

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  12. How lovely, it’s amazing how friendships never seem to really end and how easy a true friend is to talk to after not seeing each other for a while. Sounds like a lovely hen do as well. Glad you had a nice time 🙂 #magicmoments

  13. Aww! Sounds like you had a wonderful time…..

  14. Sounds like a brilliant time – Its so nice to just have a good time without worrying about the kids isn’t it?

  15. Ah sounds lovely! I bloody love a good hen do! Such good girly fun! Glad you had a super nice time xxx

  16. Glad you had a great time, and so lovely to have a friendship that’s lasted through those years and separations.

  17. That sounds lovely. She must be a special friend for your friendship to survive so much coming and going over the years. I bet you can’t wait for her baby to be born!

  18. Ours have totally petered out too, this is our first one in two years and no more on the horizon xx

  19. Ah, sounds lovely – I miss having weddings and hen nights to go to – they peter out when you hit a certain age 🙂 X

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