A Pleasant Surprise #ThePrompt #PoCoLo

Overall I don’t have a very high opinion of health visitors. Purely speaking of my own experiences, it seems they are giving their personal opinions. Often relayed far too matter of factly, and not often enough backed up by substantial evidence or medical fact. They were the one group of people guaranteed to set off my brand-new-mum-hormones, and I’d usually leave with tears in my eyes after seeing them with my 4yo. I learnt my lesson and didn’t bother with HV clinics for 2yo. I think she only went four or five times in her whole first year. I wasn’t planning on doing anything but the bare minimum with my new baby either.

When I took him for his 8 week check up I intended on being in and out as quickly as possible. The HV was asked how I was coping with the sleep deprivation, so I told her it was fine because I’d hardly slept in three years. Imagine my surprise when instead of her eyes glazing over – as I’d come to expect from these types of conversations – she wanted to know the details. So I told her the full story of my troubled little big girl. (you can read about it here if you like)

Turns out the HV’s 9 year old son has ulcerative colitis, and she suffered months of being fobbed off watching his condition get steadily worse before finally seeing a specialist and receiving a diagnosis. She had a very sympathetic ear, and told me she would be able to refer 4yo to the specialists herself. (Apparently any HV can do this for a child under eight, who knew?!) She came to my house the following week and we went through all my daughters issues. We also plotted her height and weight on the dreaded chart, which was sad but not surprising. Although my girl was born way up in the 91st percentile, she is now in the 2nd for height and 20th for weight.

The letter came this week. We shall be seeing a gastrointestinal paediatrician at the end of next month. I know she is going to need invasive tests. I know she is going to hate every second. I just hope we can finally get to the bottom of her problems. And that there aren’t any nasty surprises along the way.

Linking up to the lovely ladies below:
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19 Comments

  1. May 29, 2014 / 5:41 pm

    I hope you get another one that gets it lovely, must be frustrating to have had someone that did and to now not 🙁 We’re on countdown now, four weeks til appt! xx

  2. May 26, 2014 / 8:10 am

    Having a HV who Gets It is so important. My original HV Got It and she was great. I’m still under the team due to PND/PTSD and my new HV is young and can’t seem to relate in the same way.
    I hope they find the problem and it’s something easy to treat. X

  3. May 20, 2014 / 8:01 am

    HV’s are so hit and miss aren’t they, which is a real shame xx

  4. May 20, 2014 / 8:00 am

    Thanks Denise, it’s such a relief to know we have a specialists’ appt on the horizon!

  5. May 20, 2014 / 7:56 am

    Thanks lovely, I’ll of course keep you all posted xx

  6. May 20, 2014 / 6:59 am

    Thanks so much Sara! HV can be such a mixed bag, and a few bad experiences can unfortunately stick and taint the overall opinion xx

  7. May 20, 2014 / 6:57 am

    I know Mel, they have to be done to get to the bottom of it once and for all xx

  8. May 20, 2014 / 6:56 am

    Thank you lovely, I really hope so too xx

  9. May 20, 2014 / 6:55 am

    I think so too! She’s restored my faith in health visitors that’s for sure 🙂

  10. May 20, 2014 / 6:47 am

    It was such a relief to finally be taken seriously Karen! Just hoping the diagnosis process isn’t too gruelling xx

  11. May 17, 2014 / 12:17 pm

    It is really good that you have found somebody to listen and accept what you’ve said. It’s wonderful when you finally find a health visitor who wants to hear and help you. I hope your referral goes well, at least you may have some answers and hopefully some solutions. Good luck x
    #PoCoLo

  12. May 16, 2014 / 11:06 pm

    This is so amazing! I think you are destined to see her. A nice positive story =) #pocolo

  13. May 16, 2014 / 10:18 pm

    So glad you found a caring soul in the form of HV… Best of luck with the referral, really hope you get some answers for your daughter. Xx

  14. Le Coin de Mel
    May 16, 2014 / 9:00 pm

    Great news! The tests might not be nice for your little one, but seeing a specialist will at least help either diagnose what might be wrong or at least find ways to understand what is happening in her little body. x

  15. May 16, 2014 / 4:46 pm

    What a wonderfully pleasant surprise. I didn’t have bad experiences with Health Visitors, but also wouldn’t really rave about them either, it was ‘in and out’ for me 🙂 I’m so glad you now have the referral that you’ve been looking for, I hope it gives you the results you need x Thanks so much for linking to #ThePrompt x

  16. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
    May 16, 2014 / 1:51 pm

    Really glad to hear you had a pleasant surprise in the form of your health visitor! I have seen good and bad ones but the bad ones really are enough to put you off ever going again! So glad she made the referral and hopefully the tests and outcomes aren’t too scary! Best of luck xx #theprompt

  17. May 16, 2014 / 6:05 am

    How lovely to have an understanding ear from a health professional! It must restore your failth a little. I felt exactly the same way about health visitors and didn’t bother 2nd time round. I guess the point is she is a mother who can empathise which is so lucky for you. I really hope this is the beginning of the end of your daughter’s troubles hon – good luck X

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