As a blogger it leaves me feeling warm and fuzzy when someone leaves a positive comment on a post I’ve spent hours toiling over. Even more so if they finish with those three magic words: thanks for sharing. Tony over at Papa Tont posted a very admirable blog this morning about his reckless past, his wife’s anxiety and control issues and his kids watching him cry. It’s had me thinking all day about the importance of information sharing.
I had a very dysfunctional upbringing and self-destructive young adulthood. At points in my life any future I had looked as though it would be bleak at best. When you dance with the devil the way I was doing you start viewing yourself as worthless and the people around you as foolish for wanting to have anything to do with you. I had to go through two mental breakdowns before finally hitting rock bottom, which is when I woke up to my addictions and demons and started turning my life around for good.
Realising a dream by writing and publishing a book
I recently published Become the Best You, which is part memoir part self-help. In it I speak about the abuse and bullying I suffered as a child, about having to grow up much faster than kids should have to, about the distinct lack of role models I had. I talk about leaving home at 15 and fending for myself, and how all this led to me drinking and partying away my teens and early twenties.
I created Mummy Tries almost two years ago during a distinctly low phase I was going through. Truth be told I needed therapy but couldn’t afford counselling at the time. The first post I published was my life in three hundred words, and was so well received that it spurred me on to continue writing. I made peace with my past a long time ago, so I don’t get sentimental or upset, and it’s been very cathartic for me to get it all out.
It’s more than just catharsis though
Every time I share experiences from my past I create the opportunity to help others. For them to relate to what I’ve been through and know they are not alone. For them to see that if they are where I have been, then there is hope. I like to think that I inspire others to free themselves from the toxic people in their lives and break the cycles of dysfunction holding them back.
As well as blogging about my past, I also write openly and honestly about my children. We’ve had a lot of sleep and behaviour problems with our eldest and although my hubby and I are always looking for ways we can improve our family’s life, quite frankly I got sick of pretending everything was okay. By sharing the not so desirable bits it lets other mums know that it’s alright to say that they don’t enjoy every single aspect of motherhood 24/7. It’s not about being negative, far from it.
In addition to all this I write about our diet of natural food, and how I believe it’s saving us from an array of physical and mental health problems. The GAPS diet is pretty much unheard of here in the UK, and I’m thrilled to know that my GAPS Blog has been the catalyst for many people taking a look at their own diets and making necessary changes for the better.
Why do you write?
I’ve been asked several times recently why I blog. Why I put my life on the internet and allow anyone and everyone to know my business. The answer is simple: I believe that it is up to each of us to make the world a better place for our children. We live in an exciting era where anything is possible, with a wealth of information at our fingertips. To make change happen we must empower ourselves with the knowledge available to us. I dread to think what it would be like without people sharing as openly as we are used to these days.
Knowing that my book and blog posts have sparked off change in so many people is a truly incredible thing. That is why I write, and it’s why I will continue to share my life. Warts and all.