It was inevitable – or was it?

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Regular readers will know that I’ve had a more colourful past than most. After a dysfunctional upbringing Ileft home at 15 – with no money, education or decent role models to teach me wrong from right. Things I went through as a child lead to major bouts of depression as a young adult. I was angry at the world back then, and flirted heavily with the devil on many occasions. I made bad decisions, and did things I am not proud of.

It was inevitable really that I would have a tough time of it, while trying to work out my place in the world. It was inevitable that my first relationships would leave my confidence in tatters. It was inevitable that I would end up partying so hard it would leave me a jibbering mess most Mondays. It was inevitable that I’d end up abusing alcohol almost to the point of no return. For the purposes of self preservation, it was inevitable that I’d cut ties with my family. And completely inevitable that after a tumultuous year living on the edge in Cambodia, my now-husband would leave me.

Destined literally for the gutter, what is perhaps surprising and not so inevitable is what happened next…

My light bulb moment, my rock bottom, my utter belief that things needed to change. That it was up to me to take responsibility and change those things myself. It wasn’t easy but I did it, and that life now seems like it was much longer ago than the eight years it’s actually been.

Sometimes you have to stick two fingers up at ‘the inevitable’, and do things your own way.

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46 Comments

  1. May 20, 2014 / 8:12 am

    Thanks for stopping by and the lovely comment. I firmly believe that we are each in control of our own destiny. As you said nothing is inevitable 🙂

  2. May 14, 2014 / 11:35 pm

    Wow, mummy tried and mummy succeeded. This is such an inspiring post, honest, open and gritty in places. I believe nothing is inevitable, and you’ve proved that theory! #theprompt

  3. mummytries
    Author
    May 11, 2014 / 6:20 am

    Thank you xx

  4. mummytries
    Author
    May 11, 2014 / 6:18 am

    It was a roller coaster hon, but almost a decade later I am very detached from it all xx

  5. mummytries
    Author
    May 11, 2014 / 6:18 am

    Thanks Vicki, it feels so good to be ‘out the other end’!

  6. mummytries
    Author
    May 11, 2014 / 6:15 am

    Thanks so much 🙂

  7. mummytries
    Author
    May 11, 2014 / 6:13 am

    Thank you so much for all your support hon, it means a lot xx

  8. Leanne (@suggys.co.uk/Leanne)
    May 10, 2014 / 6:29 pm

    your welcome :)… x

  9. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:44 pm

    Thanks lovely lady. Glad you enjoyed the last line 🙂 xx

  10. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:43 pm

    Thanks so much for your lovely and kind words Kat!

  11. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:42 pm

    Glad you managed to get passed your troubles too hon. The other side is a nice place xx

  12. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:41 pm

    Thank you so much x

  13. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:40 pm

    Please don’t feel bad – everyone has their own story to tell. Personally I believe that as long as we learn from the mistakes of the past, the future will be brighter 🙂

  14. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:37 pm

    Thanks so much hon x

  15. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:37 pm

    Thanks Kate, me too!

  16. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:35 pm

    Thanks Jenny, that life really does feel like a long long time ago!

  17. May 10, 2014 / 5:31 pm

    As you know from our past chats my lovely, I am constantly impressed by how much you have gone through and how much you have achieved. I know a lot of people who make the excuse that they don’t know any better than what their parents taught them. You are proof that this is just not true.So pleased you have the family and relationship you deserve. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 xx

  18. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:24 pm

    Thanks so much Sarah. I get a great amount of pleasure knowing that my kids will have a different start in life to the one I had xx

  19. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:23 pm

    Thanks for your lovely comment Kiran xx

  20. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:23 pm

    I try my hardest to be positive, as soon as I’m not it all goes to pot!

  21. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:21 pm

    Thank you! Sometimes the bird is completely necessary 😉

  22. mummytries
    Author
    May 10, 2014 / 5:21 pm

    Thanks hon x

  23. May 10, 2014 / 12:34 pm

    Wow what an incredible lady you are, truly overcoming adversity. Such an inspiration, thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts

  24. May 10, 2014 / 11:57 am

    You’ve really experienced the highs and lows haven’t you? But congratulations for sticking those two fingers up! X #ThePrompt

  25. May 9, 2014 / 11:00 pm

    Such a raw, honest post. Thanks for sharing. Well done for turning it around xxx #theprompt #PoCoLo

  26. Brilliant honest post and I am so happy for you that you managed to turn things around. I totally agree that life be hard to change but we all have it in us to make things better for us.

  27. May 9, 2014 / 3:30 pm

    Wow. The link post are so honest and interesting! Such colorful lifeyou had. Thank you for sharing such personal stories. #pocolo

  28. May 9, 2014 / 12:35 pm

    Such an inspirational post. It can be so hard to step away from the ‘inevitable’, inertia is a tough thing o overcome. You are sitting such a wonderful example to your children. Love this post, thank you so much for linking to #ThePrompt x

  29. May 9, 2014 / 12:23 pm

    Yay, good on you! I love the idea of sticking two fingers to the inevitable! Why conform to what the past and circumstances supposedly dictate? Forge your own path. I think your story would really inspire others, thanks so much for sharing!
    #PoCoLo x

  30. May 9, 2014 / 12:04 pm

    You are so right. I love the quote you have put – I really think looking after yourself is an act of survival. I have been through a few things in my life and wondered how the hell id get anywhere but you have to just focus and believe in yourself and you can get there x

  31. May 9, 2014 / 11:42 am

    You are an inspiration for managing to change your life like that! I love that last line 😀

  32. May 9, 2014 / 11:30 am

    Wow, this is such an uplifitng post! I too struggle with many life experiences that weren’t really positive and were quite out of the ordinary, but I try to make the most of my life anyway. Now I feel bad for just having written a post about my psychiatric hospitalization being inevitable, but well.

  33. Leanne (@suggys.co.uk/Leanne)
    May 9, 2014 / 11:23 am

    What a loving and inspiring Post… We can only blame our past for so long… but we can change it or let it define us!.. Welldone hunnie 🙂 #PoCoLo

  34. May 9, 2014 / 10:30 am

    Popping over from #Pocolo by the way!

  35. May 9, 2014 / 10:30 am

    Such an honest post – so glad you got your “Light bulb” moment!

  36. May 9, 2014 / 8:26 am

    Your out look is so great I am so glad despite the harships you have had to experience you know what path you want to take and it’s a positive one. Life is too short. Lovely post. #PoCoLo

  37. May 9, 2014 / 5:54 am

    Yay! Good for you. It must be so hard to break the cycle and change things for yourself and your children, but you’ve done it! There will be no cycle to break for them and their future is bright because you were strong enough to change. x

  38. May 9, 2014 / 5:48 am

    Brilliant! Thank you for such an honest, positive, uplifting post. So inspiring, and well done to you xxx

  39. May 8, 2014 / 9:08 pm

    Your story is totally inspirational. You are such a positive person and influence.

  40. May 8, 2014 / 7:45 pm

    I hope the ‘inevitables’ of your future are steps forwards and upwards with lots of fun and frolics along the way. Well done for looking back and flipping it the bird! #brilliantblogposts

  41. May 8, 2014 / 12:46 pm

    Love this! You are so right, and well done for sticking those two fingers up x

  42. cat1978
    May 8, 2014 / 8:36 am

    Brilliant! Absolutely! You are a walking, talking, blogging inspiration to those who feel their future is ‘inevitable’ it takes guts to change the past into the future you want and you’ve done it, I am full of awe and admiration Cat xxx

  43. May 8, 2014 / 8:00 am

    I’m glad to see that despite hardships you seem so positive. Nice post. #BrilliantBlogPosts

  44. May 8, 2014 / 7:15 am

    What a fab and honest post – you are right we make our own future but society is too quick to tell us the path we must take. I fear for my nephew as it is ‘inevitable’ that he will be messed up when he’s older and I’m powerless to do anything about it apart from try and help from the sidelines x

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