The earliest days of baby No.3

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I didn’t have a clue what life would be like after my third baby came along, and keeping an open mind was definitely the best thing I did. Here are some of my musings during those earliest days…

Recognising it was go time:
Everyone assumed I was a seasoned pro and would instinctively know when the baby was coming, but based on my previous experiences I didn’t want to get too excited until I knew for sure. I had an inkling the morning of the birth, and told hubby to work from home just in case. The contractions came and went and when I felt them picking up pace I downloaded a timer app and timed them for an hour. It confirmed they were only a few minutes apart and that it really was time to head to the hospital.

The birth itself:
I was originally hoping for a home birth, but Group B Strep put paid to that idea. A water birth at the midwife-led birthing centre was my backup plan, but wasn’t to be either though – the water didn’t relieve the pain and I wasn’t able to get into decent position. I ended up delivering on the chaise-lounge in the exact same room as I did last time, in almost the exact same position. No good would have come from me getting upset about my original plans going out of the window. I was just relieved to have had a straightforward delivery.

Unfortunately because my little one came out much quicker than his sisters, the IV antibiotics I had during labour (for the GBS) didn’t get to him in time, so he had to have them instead. Starting his tiny life with a canula in his hand, and drugs being pumped through him over a 48 hour period was not what I wanted, but faced with the potential alternative, I didn’t have much choice. If we had gone to hospital two hours earlier my antibiotics would have passed through to him, but again no good would have come from self-flagellation.

The hospital stay:
It is a well documented fact that the food provided by the NHS is appalling, and you are likely to get no sleep when you’re on a maternity ward. If they have them going spare a private room can be requested, and I feel it was £60 per night well spent! I also took a bag of healthy snacks in with me, along with lots of herbal tea. They kept me going between those ‘delightful’ meals.

Expectations of expertise:
Just because I’d already had two kids, didn’t mean I knew everything. Each chiId is completely different, and a new addition means there are extra members of the family that need to adapt. I’ve written several posts about how difficult our eldest was, and we had a fair bit of jealousy from 2yo too. Pre-birth I tried not to have any expectations, and am glad I took this stance. The first few weeks were hard enough, without feeling they weren’t living up to a pre-conceived fantasy of how I felt they should have been.

Feeding:
Read here for my insights on breastfeeding. Ensuring that my son drank enough milk during the day was definitely the key to him sleeping for a few hours at a time in the night. This meant waking him up for daytime feeds in the first few weeks, often stripping him off. As tempting as it was to let him sleep all day, I knew we’d pay for it that night if we did. By six weeks he was only having one night feed most nights, and this is still the case.

Reflux:
The R Word was a nightmare for us first time round, and second time I was determined for that to not be the case. Whether 2yo just didn’t have reflux or we prevented it I will never know. When our littlest started displaying symptoms at just a few days old, rather than wait it out and let it potentially get bad I did everything I could to stop it in its tracks. Here are the main things that worked for us:
– eliminating all dairy products from my diet
– burping baby really well mid feed and at the end
– keeping him upright for a few mins after feeds
– sleeping on his side not his back
– carrying him everywhere in an upright sling facing inwards instead of putting him in the buggy
– having tons of muslins everywhere just in case!

It feels like those days were a very long time ago already! Did your early days go super fast? Do you have any advice to share? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section if you do :)

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28 thoughts on “The earliest days of baby No.3”

  1. Wow those super early days are tough aren’t they? Figuring out what kind of baby you have – how life is going to be… You’re right not to beat yourself up about how the birth didn’t conform to the plan, etc, – at least you know you tried water and it wasn’t for you. And it sounds like you’ve done everything to prevent the dreaded reflux – we have so much more knowledge second (or third!) time around don’t we?! (Although not so much how the others will adapt to life with a new sibling – I hope that situation has calmed down a bit now. X) #MagicMoments

    1. You’re not wrong about that Sam! I knew it would be tough, but have to say was taken aback by how difficult those first six weeks were. All much better now, but the girls still have their moments ;-) xx

  2. I remember being on the maternity wars for about 3 days after my section and I was do exhausted from a complete lack of sleep, I would definitely pay next time to get a private room! I think I fell asleep on the couch about 30 seconds after I got home :)

  3. I had no idea private rooms are available in NHS hospitals, as I will be having a hospital birth with this one I shall definitely be enquiring about one of those if I have to stay.
    I’m expecting my 7th and, as you say, each child is different and each time there are more family members who have to adapt and adjust to the new dynamics. We love it though, being in a large family is a lot of fun. x

    1. I.don’t know how you do it Alex, but must say it does look a lot of fun! Must be comforting when you don’t have extended family around. I always said I wanted four, but think we’ll stick to three ;-)

  4. awww my lovely i have GBS too and thankfully i had the antibiotics and a section so Joshua missed it.

    i think your positivity throughout is fantastic honey. xxx

    thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments x

  5. Wow reading this brings back so many memories, I liked the idea of the water birth too but it didn’t work for me, I couldn’t even keep my head above water in a bath for the pain and sucummed to the drugs. #MagicMoments

  6. That’s a brilliant post, hun! It sounds like you have had a straightforward birth. Shame little one had to be on antibiotics for the first 2 days of his life, but like you said, it had to be done. Great advice about bringing food and getting a room if you can. It is 3 times more expensive here (how weird that prices fluctuate so much within the NHS), but if we have to, we will probably have one for a night. I will definitely refer back to your post very soon, when Wriggly comes. Reflux sounds awful and I really hope our little does not suffer from it. Beanie had colic, and that was bad enough! x Mel

    1. Oh no hon that’s a lot of money! Hopefully Wriggly will be nice and quick and you won’t have to stay in. Can’t believe you’re due in a month, so exciting xx

  7. You seemed to have everything in control really esp with the reflux. I am contemplating on another baby actually but I am really scared. Everytime I see my son and he is going to be alone cuz I had him when I am old I was thinking he needs a team mate. Sorry I am mumbling things that are not related =P

    Love your post its so honest. #MagicMoments

  8. Funnily enough I’m just writing a post about this for a guest blog. I found the second baby harder I think because I had expectations (which I didn’t realise until he came along.) they were hard to get rid of and have a clean slate. Thanks for sharing with #TheThemeGame

    1. It’s amazing how we can end up convincing ourselves that things ‘should’ be this way or that. Unfortunately we can end up setting ourselves up for a fall in doing so…

  9. The early days with Little Man seemed to go by much more quickly than with Boo and despite the reflux and muslins everywhere!, a part of me misses them now that he’s a toddler. not enough to have another, though ;-) Great post, thanks for sharing with #TheThemeGame

    1. I think over time most mums develop ‘selective memory syndrome’ and only remember the good stuff. It’s why the older generation are always regaling tales that seem a little far fetched ;-)

  10. I have to say, it’s all a bit of a blur! The first time an emergency section left me in a not very good place and I struggle to remember the early days. It was definitely easier the second and third times :) I’m glad your wee man is settling so well x

  11. Aw bless, so lovely to look back on the early days! My wee boy also started life with a cannula and IV antibiotics (and a lumbar puncture, poor mite!). Looking back, this probably contributed a little to my worries and development of postpartum psychosis. It also meant I was petrified of changing his clothes! Great tips on preventing reflux, thanks for those!
    X

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